I don’t like my friend at all, but she is suicidal so I can’t unfriend her. What do I do?

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She slams me into walls, accuses me of random things, punches my other friends, and is out of control.

Category: Tags: asked November 26, 2013

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This may seem insensitive, but whether or not she's suicidal has nothing to do with you. If you just didn't enjoy her company I'd tell you to tolerate it and help her if you can, but if she's mistreating you to that extent you need to worry about yourself first. I'd bail.
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Call help, if she doesn't already have it. It's the best thing you can do for her. After that, you need to think of yourself. If she's punching you and hurting you, explain to her that you don't like it. If that doesn't work, you may need to leave. You can't help her if you need help yourself. And if she is violent towards you, that means you need help to protect yourself from her. It's not easy, and you might feel bad about it, but sometimes it is out of our hands.
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If you don't like her at all, you may just don't talk with her again, there's nothing wrong with that.You also can help her become a better person, you can try to make her realize what she's doing is bad for you, and if she still wants to be your friend, she's gotta change.It's tough anyway, I guess...
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She is probably taking her pent up anger out on you guys. If that's the case you may not realise but you are actually helping her in a way just being her punching bag. Someone you actually studied psychology might have been able to help her, I don't know about you. I'd talk to her parents and suggest to them to take her to a professional therapist.
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She sounds crazy. Get rid of her.
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You should never feel guilty about cutting a negative person out of your life. Maybe tell a Counsellor, parents of her or someone like that what she is going through and explain to her why you're pulling away bit you can not give your happiness for hers
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If there have been claims of suicide from your friend, you need to speak up. Her aggression is not good and you shouldn't endure that. But if you desert her in her time of need, you might just bring her down and she might feel like she has no one left. Just focus on getting her help and when she is violent again, be confrontational and tell her that, regardless of how she's feeling, she needs to treat you right.
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Don't look at it as "un-friending" her. Sometimes the best way to love someone is to set boundaries with them - especially when they turn abusive like that. It's not helping her or you by allowing her to do those things to you. That sounds scary. Hurt people generally hurt others but the cycle has to end some where. Anyway, I hope you figure things out.
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Not only is she manipulating you by dangling her conditions over your head, she is bullying you. This needs to be reported. Just because someone is suicidal or has suicidal thoughts does not give them the right to treat anyone horribly. Stand up for yourself by involving someone who will take over the situation, and better yourself by avoiding this girl. She just sounds like a bad egg, and I'm sure you deserve better than that in a friend :)
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Talk to or seek help from an older adult, who you trust and feel comfortable talking to.
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I have a friend who is suicidal too. To be blunt, she didn't have any friends (for valid reasons) and I took pity on her and tried to be a friend. She had so much anger in her, she curses at people unreasonably for one. One day I had enough and I told her off about the cursing. It worked with me. I talk to her on and off. So as time went by, I empathised with her and actually REALLY tried to help her. At first I tried talking sense into her, sending her materials to read or watch, listening and comforting her but honestly she was so addicted to her self pity. She would toy with me on and off. I would get a message from her saying she is feeling depressed etc and right after i reply, she would say something like "Hmm I wonder how does it feel like to jump. Bye." I try to help her and she would be like whatever. It became emotionally stressful for me, it's like emotional abuse.

I believe I was in the same situation you are in. Many times I wanted to tell her off, I wish I didn't try to help but I felt guilty because she was suicidal so I tried harder. I felt miserable every time I talk to her. Until one day I had enough cause it's like she knows no boundaries and I set things straight with her. I am still a little mad. I told her to stop playing games with me. It is up to her to take the extra mile, not me. It is HER life and NOT MINE. Same to you, it is HER life and NOT YOURS. You have to know when to draw the line. When she starts bringing you down with her, you need to know when to say enough is enough.

Like what the others have said, it IS abuse and bully. Sometimes you gotta fight fire with fire. Sometimes being complacent and sympathising too much can be dangerous for them. They take it for granted. Like what someone said here, she is manipulating you by dangling her conditions over your head. By being suicidal DOES NOT give someone a passport to do whatever they want to another person.

Set things straight with her. I'm not telling you to desert her and "leave her to die" but confront her about it and tell her you do not agree with all the aggression. I'm sorry it is such a long post but I am still a little emotional and mad about it. Idk if I have written this sound aptly but the window is so small to preview everything and edit so I'm gonna leave it as it is.

I wish you and your friend all the best. PM me if you want to talk. Cheers.