I don’t know how to proceed with my relationship.

Im lesbian, and engaged. But my fiancé and I fight constantly over stupid things. She takes the fights too far, screaming at me over organization in the house or what time I ate food while she was at work. I can’t stand the fighting. I spent over 2 years in a very abusive relationship and I’m very sensitive and scarred from it. I tried to break up with my fiancé last week but then she tried to kill herself and when I stopped her she ran away. I had to have her aunt come help me convince her to come home.
I don’t want to be in a relationship like this but I dont want her to kill herself. Plus we live together and im the breadwinner so she wouldnt have much money to move out (it’s my house). I really love her more than anything… I want us to be happy together but I dont think its going to happen. Im constantly stressed out and depressed.

Category: Dating & Relationships Tags: girlfriend asked September 2, 2013

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keramie

2 Answers

you should always be in a relationship where the other person loves you more than yourself. A relationship where there is constant fights over nothing is not meant to be. As far as your gf goes, i think she will need some serious counselling to get her out of this. She cannot rely on you her whole life. She needs to see that if nothing is done sooner then there is no point of having this relationship. She needs to get a job and be a stable person. You need to see whether she is worthy of your love. Shouting is no solution to any argument. it just makes it worse. Try to sit and talk to her and see how it goes. Make her understand that you both have problems that need to be addressed and then fixed, otherwise both of you will suffer and that is not what a relationship should be like. Good luck

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isha

if you truly feel in your gut that y'all shouldn't be together you probably shouldn't. I mean if she's freaking out about organization or what time you eat, thats taking it a little too far. imagine how she may react when something worth fighting for occurs. the best way to deal with something like this is to sit down with a close family friend and have you both talk about it. make sure you listen to her side of the story too. the family friend is there in case things spiral out of control..not to be used at a "who's right" person. try getting a marriage counselor. if there is really no way to fix it. call her family member again, and once again try to end it. carefully and gently. make sure you have the family member keeps a close eye on her. if you're not happy its not a healthy relationship. Good luck.

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Katherine