I have asked questions on here before about relationships, and dating, so I’m sorry in advance. But, if I don’t have you guys here on BlahTherapy, then I have no one to really ask. So I really appreciate any information you give me, or help me in any way.
I believe in things that are kind of old school, and am often referred to as being very religious. Although I am not religious at all, I have nothing against God, or anyone who is religious, so no offense to anyone. But, I believe that there should be no sex before marriage, and that it should only be shared with someone whose your partner, your life, your sole, your missing puzzle piece.
But, heres where I get stuck between a rock and a hard place. Every person that I come in counter with, just for conversations, not for dating. They all inform me they have had sexual relations before. Right then, and there the red flag hits, and I just can’t go on anymore. I believe before you get to dating someone you should really just talk, which is what I am doing when I find out they have had other relations.
The only people I know that don’t have relations before marriage are people who believe in God. Now, having said that, it brings me up to another topic. If I try to go out with someone whose religious then that’s not right for them, because I’m not entirely hooked on going to church. I totally agree with people who are religious, because they are genuinely the people who abide by the law, are genuinely the kind who are my kind of people. Just without the whole church scene, and things.
So, what do you think about all of this. Are there people out there who aren’t religious, but do believe in saving sex for marriage. Or should I wait for the right guy to come into my life whose religious, and just learn to like the church scene.
Thank you for any suggestions you may have. I hope everyone has a wonderful night/day, depending on where you live.
Hard to say. My knowledge is limited because I only have my own experiences to draw on. I don't consider myself religious. I've never liked going to church, and I don't really like reading the Bible either. I do believe in God though. But almost more in an abstract sense. Like, to me, God isn't a man in the sky. God is The Universe, of which we're all children. And I think that, whatever you call it (God, Allah, Mother Nature, The Great Spirit, The Universe) created everything that is. So, I don't know if that makes me religious or not. haha.
My goal in life is to have only one sexual partner, but it's not because I think to do otherwise would be immoral. I just can't see myself sharing that experience with anyone whom I didn't consider my life partner. I've always said that I would be married, but now I'm not so sure about that either. What I really want is the commitment, I don't really need that "law-abiding-contract" part. Seems like it just complicates things. But I'm not too worried about that right now. I figure if I ever do find that person, we'll discuss it then.
I think I understand you. Sometimes I feel so strange because the idea of waiting for real commitment before getting physical seems to be such a foreign concept to people. But I find it strange that people can just do that sort of thing with anyone. I don't judge them for it of course. I feel like everyone should do whatever makes them happy, provided no one gets hurt. I think I might be asexual, or at least under that umbrella, and unfortunately there doesn't really seem to be a place for people who are like that. It's hard to find someone to even consider getting into a relationship with because everyone seems so hung up on having sex. I dunno.
Anyway, that's my two cents. Hope it helped. (: