how to stop comparing your life to others?

Remember that everyone's different. Instead of comparing your life to others, try to just focus on trying to just make yourself happy. Work hard to make your life something others are jealous of. I know it can be hard and it's pretty much impossible to stop completely. But, you can always lessen the amount of comparison of different lives. I wish you good luck!!

I'm sure we all know we shouldn't compare ourselves with others because it lowers our self-esteem. How about listening to music, it's always a great coping skill for me, and I know how it feels to compare yourself with others. Usually I feel like crap, but I usually listen to music. Another thing is you shouldn't compare yourself because in all honesty we are all screwed up people. We may dress up or look like we are all perfect and crap, but in reality we are all different and the same. Our appearances are different and our secrets are similar. We are all just human beings with secrets behind our back and that's okay. We're not all comfortable of what we have but slowly we learn to accept it. I hope I helped. :)

As human beings, we are social creatures. We live alongside one another and see at least a bit into each other's lives. Sometimes we see things we like or dislike and we find ourselves comparing our lives to one another, and that is okay. It is a form of accountability and taking stock of our lives.

The reality is that we will never stop comparing ourselves to each other. It is true that we should not predominantly judge ourselves based on what we have versus hat we hav not compared to others, but the act itself is ultimately inevitable.

Think instead how you will handle what you find lacking in your own life that you find in others'. Focus not on the problem, on what you have not, but instead what you will do about it. Focus on the solution.

You know, if I could be anyone, I'd be Jennifer Lawrence. Not only would I love to act, and be in movies, but she's so fabulous in my mind. Everyone loves her. I went through a time where I actually looked into acting schools and auditions and whatnot just so I could TRY and be her. But then I realized that I could never be her. If I was, she wouldn't be so original, so unique. I would be a fake. I found that the key is to just take what I have in life, who I am, and be my own character. Just because I'm not fabulous, doesn't mean people don't look at my life and envy me. I may not see anything to be envious of, but someone else does. The thing about life is we always want what we can't have. Comparing lives... well, that's something I feel everyone does. You're not always going to look at your own life and think it's perfect. But it's YOUR life, and only you have it, and only you can live it. You may always compare your life to others... but the only way to have a better resume than someone else is by making decisions to better your life. If you keep focus on your own life, everyone else may just compare theirs to yours and wish they were you.

All of the above responses have really good suggestions & advice. I was very guilty of this all throughout my life until I graduated high school. It's hard to tell you exactly how to get to that moment of release, but it will come. The fact that you're trying to stop proves that you recognize what's going on and are aware that it isn't healthy for you. That in itself is very commendable. For me, I realized one day that the people around me (the ones I compared myself to) shouldn't make me feel this way. I wasn't happy with myself or them. I decided to break those toxic relationships and decide to do what makes me happy. It's a long journey to completely shake that habit, since it's nearly human nature to do so. The journey is worth it though, I promise. You will reach that moment of release. Don't stop trying to shake that habit. You can do it! :)

I completely agree with @Jonathan. The question is not how to stop comparing. The question is how to learn something from others. How to avoid vehement self-criticism?I feel that you can't. You may ignore it, try to look at it from a different perspective but somewhere in your sub-consciousness, you will not be convinced. What's the solution then?The solution is what jon said. Find what you are lacking and tackle it. The trick is to channel all negativity and self-hurt into determination for self-improvement.