How to get over a guy quick

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Yes, heres another typical girl in distress over some loser guy.
I’ve dated this guy for a year and 9 months..It was a serious relationship.
Throughout our relationship though I found him to be very controlling and mentally abusive-I dealt with depression and anxiety and he would take it as a joke. I’m not here to make him sound like the next bad guy in an action movie, I loved and cared for this guy. Sadly, I had to end the relationship due to a panic attack I was having, I over thought things and I made a sudden decision that I hadn’t thought through, and broke up with him. This was back in June 2014.. It is now October..Yea, it’s pretty pathetic. what hurts the most is seeing him be so alright with everything, as if I never even meant much to him in order for him to be gloomy over it..Yes, some guys have huge egos where they don’t want to show emotions, but COME ON..I know there are no quick at home remedies on how to get rid of a bad case of the ‘i miss my ex’ but, honestly I feel lost and hopeless. This guy made me feel like no guy will ever love me because of my unstable mental health. It just sucks.

Category: Tags: asked October 14, 2014

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dung is right, try your best to put him out your mind. if he can move on that easily then he aint worth it. There is plenty more people out there that will be better for you than him. You'll get through this.
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Don't worry honey, other guys will love you, I suggest you get rid of everything that reminds you of him and not remember him or see him ever. and don't give up, I have OCD and schizophrenia and I have around 5 friends.
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I was with a guy for 3 years before I broke up with him because I had a severe nervous breakdown due to his complete negligence and indifference towards me..so trust me, I KNOW what you are going through. I won't lie, the feeling..the yearning to get back with something so familiar will never completely subside, but it will get better in time. I can tell that you probably haven't been with another guy since, otherwise you would not be this heartbroken still. If you want my honest advice..set goals for yourself, do something to better yourself..take a vacation, learn a new instrument, take a 2 week course in cake baking..something. Keep in mind that, in time, a guy...a MUCH better guy WILL stumble into your life, you just have to be patient and keep going about your day until then. Stressing yourself out wondering why and what your ex is doing will nullify the reason behind why you left him in the first place.
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Please remember it isn't pathetic to feel this way. When you are with someone for so long it is hard to get over them, or to at least move on. I've been there myself, I was once engaged and he broke up with me and it took me awhile to get myself back to "normal". I still think about him and at times miss him, but over time he doesn't cross my mind much and I sometimes forget I was even engaged, haha. I hope you're heart heals soon.
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I'm sorry that you should like you're in a very bad place and you're feeling very bad. First, he puts you in that place and he's wrong to do that. He may seem okay now, but you don't know for sure if he's happy. A person who puts down other people and make other people feel less about themselves will NEVER be happy. Second, if there's something that you can feel good about is that you dumped him. That's right, YOU STOOD UP FOR YOURSELF and ended something so toxic. You will heal. Everything will be OK again. Somebody loves you.
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Just because you have panic attacks does not mean you are unlovable. My best friend has them too and I love her to death. I also have anxiety sometimes...these kind of things are very normal (: some ways to get over him is LOOK FOR OTHER GUYS. just flirt with them, say hi, or start hanging out with one of them. It will make you feel good about yourself. There are so many other guys out there, and even though a lot of them are jerks, it will be so worth it when you find the right one. Try starting off as just friends first and if you feel like it can lead to something more, go for it!