How to deal with feeling so alone?

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I’ve just been feeling really lonely lately and I don’t know what to do. It always makes me feel better to talk about my problems and the one friend that I can trust with anything is going through things on her own too and I just feel like I’m burdening her on top of her own problems to deal with. It took me going through a lot of trust issues just to open up as much as I do to her and I don’t think I can with anyone else. I’ve tried going to a therapist or talking to a parent but that doesn’t seem to help. I have some close friends that I talk to on occasion about it but I still just feel really alone sometimes.

Category: Tags: asked July 20, 2014

4 Answers

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Hey Jackie!

I know exactly where you're coming from. At least for me, it's not about not wanting to talk to people or not having people to talk to, but just not feeling connected to anyone, and having trouble staying connected when I do. I'm not anti-social and I have a lot of friends, but I still feel alone.

What has really helped me is going and doing an activity, a sport, or something outside, where you're semi-forced to talk to people. It can be awkward at first, but it helps me find groups of people I know I already share interests with, and even if it doesn't "cure" the loneliness, it certainly helps me feel connected. I don't know if that's something you would care to do.

Please know that you aren't alone in feeling like that; everyone gets a little lonely sometimes, and often the only cure is to wait a little, make new friends, or just re-connect with the people that you love. I hope you feel better soon, and if you ever need someone to talk to, you can pm me any time.

xo
Ursula
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She pretty much nailed it ^I never did trust my therapist enough to talk to them, Just getting out there or doing social things helps. Even if you have to fake it at first, you'll eventually start having fun and feeling ok. It took me a bit of trying, but the more you do, the better you'll feel.
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walk the streets of the closest major city. Ride buses with people and look at their faces. Bum cigarettes from strangers, Go to the top of buildings and drink rum staring at the skyline. Loneliness can only hurt as deep as you let it. What your feeling has been felt by so many, so remember you're not alone at all.
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How to Be Alone. I often have a disconnect with people too. Watching this video always reminds me that being alone can mean so many different things.