how many times to say i love you

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How many times should you say i love you to your significant other?

I’m asking, because my boyfriend says i say it too much.

I barely say it 3 times a day. 5 times if I’m lucky to go without being accused.

I come from the belief, that you should say it when you feel it. Not too much, not too little.

He was the first to say it in our relationship, and i couldn’t be happier. I like to tell him i love m. I him a lot, and he will say it back. But just recently, today, he told me i was saying it too much. I had only said it 3 times. Once just randomly, once at the end of a call, and when he said he was going to bed. I feel pretty sad hearing him say that, cuz i really do love him.

In know he’s had a rough month, but still………..

Should there be a limit to saying it,?
is there any reasons for why he told me that?

Category: Tags: asked August 30, 2014

4 Answers

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No, there shouldn't be a limit to saying "I love you". It's important to share how you feel. You have a good attitude in that respect. I mean there are a lot of possible explanations, and we can all sit here and spit them all out, and you can sit there and torture yourself about which one it is- but that's not ideal. Ask him about it. Sit him down and just ask him. "Babe, what's up with what you said earlier? About saying 'I love you? Is everything alright?". Don't be scared to ask. Communication is super important (I probably sound like a broken record telling you that, but it is good to be reminded). Good luck. x
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Me and my boyfriend honestly say "i love you" about every five mins lol. I honestly think that saying those words and getting them back just make you feel a lot better i mean whynot say them more. It always helps me when im reminded with an i love you because i feel a lot better and more loved. I would let your boyfriend know how you feel about it. Dont feel bad that your saying it too much because its not like that is a negative saying. Try to show your boyfriend that part of it and give him another outlook on the whole situation. In my opinion i find nothing wrong with saying that and if they loved you then they wouldnt care how many times you said it. Its normal when your in a relationship and you want to show them how much you love them. You seem to be doing nothing wrong so just dont try to overthink it all. You deserve to say how you feel how many times you want.:)
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My husband and I will go in streaks. Sometimes every other text, every third phrase in a sentence, is "I love you". Some times, I don't remember the last time I said it. But, it doesn't mean we're not feeling it - or that we're not in love - it just means that we not as vocal about it or we don't feel the need to say it. Not everyday do we feel the need to express our emotions verbally.

That being said - this bothers you - and you need to talk to him about it. He needs to know when you're upset. Just like you deserve to know if why he said that is that he doesn't feel it or if it's because he's stressed and lashing out at you because he hurts.
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No, never If he thinks you say it too much then its his fault for dating an amazingly passionate woman/man who will never let him forget how they feel.(maybe he is just worried he'll be desensitised to it, check what his relationship beliefs are...)