How does one get rid or move past the feeling of adbondoment?

Hmm. Your situation seems very complex. And I'm sorry that your relationship has ended. As far as getting past feelings of abandonment, I'm afraid my best advice is to "ride the wave." By no means do I say that lightly; intense emotions, especially uncomfortable ones, are absolute hell to experience. But they will sweep you up, and then let you go. One word of caution when riding a wave of emotion is that often times our emotions are fueled by thoughts that occur to us. And when those emotions are very intense or a result of a situation that hits close to home, the thoughts that pop up are often less than helpful. Lightly letting go of the thoughts which exacerbate negative emotions, and reconsidering them when you aren't feeling so emotional, might help you survive the emotion. I'm sorry that you feel abandoned. That's an extremely difficult emotion to weather :( But I believe you can do it! Best of wishes!

to me: this sounds like someone who was also abandoned in a similar fashion. someone who doesnt understand how to cope with negative feelings. i dont know the origin of the disagreement, but try to understand that this isnt your fault at all (despite whatever the argument was about). this abandonment isnt a reflection on you, but him.

Everyday its a struggle with myself. The feeling of never being good enough in his eyes no matter what I said, did or believed. He hasnt been in similar situation THAT I know of. I on the other hand have. My father did the same thing to my mother and I when I was a senior in HS. My older sister had already moved out. Till this day we dont speak and if we do it is through my older sister. when my father left my mom fell into a deep depression I was there to see her at her worst. I had to pick up the peices (my Mother) and keep her going. As far as my husbands decisions I know im not ALL at fault and theres always three sides to a story. Mine , his and the truth. I tell myself Its not my fault. Its been 6months since my husband left and doesnt seem to be getting easier.I want to let go of all the negative feelings but dont know where to start

Swimsuit ✔ floaters✔sunscreen✔..bring on the waves I'm ready!! I thank you both for the advice-