How do you get over a straight girl crush?

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I’m a bi female. I really like this one girl. She’s straight, and knows I like her. She is really nice to me anyway, and always wanting to help me. I find myself pretending that since she simply said she has feelings for a boy, she didn’t specifically say she’s straight. I have dream where she tell me she’s bi or pan, and that she likes me. I just need out of this death trap. I want to stop biting my lip when she says hey, or looking for her when I get to school. But I can’t.

Category: Tags: asked October 26, 2014

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Hmm, I dont want to be rude, but I want to be completly honest with you. I dont think she likes you back. Her being nice to you doesnt equal romantic interest. Ive had a guy tell me he liked me as more than a friend, I said I didnt feel the same, but I would love to remain friends if he was okay with it. To this day we remaind friends, and I dont know if he ever got over me, but we talk as friends and I try to help him out whenever he needs it. I see her as doing the same thing (Though I could be wrong!). She could treasure your friendship, and want to remain friends. Also, she told you she liked a boy. If she liked you, why would she lie about that?Stay positive! It doesnt mean you have to lose her forever! You can be good friends and still enjoy her company. As for you moving on, when your at home, to keep your thoughts away from her, try to busy yourself. Work out, draw, read, watch a movie, video games, or start hanging out with other friends to keep your mind off her. Eventually it goes away, thought it might take a bit. At least, thats how I dealt with a similar issue.Go out and try to meet someone new! :) Hope everything gets better for you!
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Sounds like she's a nice and great person. The best advice I can give is to stay busy, perhaps joining a society or a club to help you meet someone new who can help you take your mind off of her. Perhaps you'll even meet someone who later become very special to you! If this doesn't work and though it may be hard maybe, don't associate with her as much until your infatuation is over? Which will suck I know but what else can you do?
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I really would like to tell you there is a chance for you, and I will tell you that maybe you shouldn't give up that easily. Not to discourage you from your current goal or anything, but you did say that she knows you like her and is still kind to you, correct? Sadly, all the people around me have shown themselves as straight, so I can't say much about you pondering over her being bi/pan, but I'd probably think that you may have a chance. But these facts contradict themselves- her being kind, and it sounds like you two are close. Like best friends, or possibly; interested in each other. On the other hand, you have said that she's told you she likes a boy, making her sound straight. She is either, one, too nice or treasures you as a friend of hers, or two, she is also trying to descipline herself to be like society has told her to be, straight. Which description seems to match her more? This next part is irrelevant but I also do wish you luck, and hope she will choose you over him. I know how it feels to have the one you like be interested in another.. Do your best to atleast keep her as a close friend if the best doesn't work, okay?