how do you act when a guy asks you out??

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I usually can tell when a guy is going to as me out. I have a tendency of freaking out and panicking. I usually try to hide or walk as far away as possible from them. One time I actually ran away before they even came up to me and I felt bad but I don’t know how to say I’m not interested. I know it sounds bad. Or sometimes i liked a person and we would talk but then i would see that they were going to ask me out so i started avoiding that person at all cost. I guess I have a fear if being heartbroken so I don’t let anyone date me. Anyways that’s a different issue. My question is how do you say no I’m not interested nicely when they are being persistent and how do you not panic and take control of the situation? And maybe you can also give me advice on how to let people in and take away the fear of being heartbroken? I guess i have a fear of going out with the person and once they see me they won’t like me anymore and reject me. I. Dint know if you get it. But yeah sorry I wrote so much. Please helo
p.s i. Do have these issues because of what I’ve seen and heard ofwhats happened to people in relationship.

Category: asked October 27, 2013

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I have felt the exact same way. I tried to avoid boys at all cost because I've been hurt before because they didn't like me anymore and broke up with me. A while I was set up with this guy, and we talked through text and Skype for a long time before I actually hung out with him. When I did, I found out he was a great guy, but I didn't want to rush into a relationship like my last one. We went on a couple dates before I knew if I really wanted to date this guy and I wanted to make sure he had the same interests as I did. I realized I did and we've been dating now for almost 11 months and they are the best months I've ever had.
What I'm trying to say is, really get to know the person before you date them. If you end up not liking the person take a deep breath and tell them how you really feel. Their feelings will be hurt less if you come right out and tell them that you don't have the same interests as them. Maybe practice it a couple of times in the mirror so you're confident in what you say. I hope this helps!