I’ve got a problem here.
How do I tell my extremely judgemental grandma I’m engaged?
I recently got engaged to my boyfriend. I’m almost 21, he’s 22. We were best friends before we dated, and we’re not planning on tying the knot for a year or so.
I’ve told my friends and most of my family already, and I got a lot of congratulations and meaningful concerns, but nothing negative.
I’m just super scared of telling my dad’s mom.
My 79 year old grandma, is incredibly judgemental of me. Because my dad wasn’t exactly the best kid growing up. She seems to think I’m gonna turn out just like him, and thus she’s already deemed me a screw up. She thinks she needs to lecture me and judge me on every choice I make. And she’s not above doing so in front of my parents, even going as far as to threaten to hit me , in front of my Mom, because I was crying over her yelling at me for my appearance.
Her husband, my grandpa, just accepts that I’m an adult, and I need to be free to make mistakes and learn.
My own parents said the same thing
I’m extremely scared of telling my grandma I’m engaged. She abhors young marriage, because her older sister got married at 15. She’s told me, lectured me in fact, that I shouldn’t even consider marriage until I’m almost 30.
I love my grandma, and I respect her concerns, but I am 20, and I’m not her daughter, nor am I the child my dad was. I need to learn from my choices
How should I tell her I’m engaged? And what should I do if she starts to yell at me?