How do I stop feeling so lonely and worthless?

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I’m very lonely. I’ve been lonely for a very long time, despite the fact that I do have friends. For some very strange reasons, I feel like I literally can’t live without being in a relationship. All I want is to find someone who I can love unconditionally and spend my life with, but I’m so hopeless. Every girl I have ever tried to express my feelings with have rejected me and had ended up with someone else. One of which happens to be my best friend now, but I’ve harbored feelings for her ever since and I have to watch her be happy in the arms of another man.

I feel like a total failure. I feel so empty, that I’ve often considered killing myself. I feel it’s a very stupid reason to be suicidal, but It is just so inexplicably important to me to find someone. I feel trapped in my life. What can I do to stop this?

Category: asked May 5, 2014

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I feel much the same way. I also have no "cure" for you. What helps me is to stay occupied for as much as possible. When I work with school, for example, or exercise or in some other way do stuff that makes it harder for my thoughts to wander, I also do not think much about the shitty relationship stuff I never seem to be able to manage very well.

It is very hard, but sometimes, when I am in a good mood, thinking that I will eventually find someone just right enough for me to work with really helps. This only happens quite rarely, but it does help from time to time.

Finally, I know what you mean about suicidal thoughts related to this. However, I do not think it is suicidal thoughts as much as it is a feeling of slowly dying from the inside out. For some of us it just is very hard to cope with life without someone else with us. For some it is awesome being single, for others it sucks. And for the ones of us it sucks, our existence sometimes feels worthless and wasted, and that leads to the feeling of no longer wanting to be alive. Just know that if you just hang in there another day or two, then you have lived another day or two, and can start concentrating on the next couple of days after that.

I hope you figure this out - Ghini
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I feel the exact same way, it's like you are speaking aloud my own thoughts. I know man, it is so damn hard, and you ask yourself, why of all the people in the whole world am I so lonely, when everyone else has someone to be with. You have the exact tragic endings like I did. Every girl I liked or wanted to be with just left me, or rejected me, and I could see no reasons to why, I am a real nice guy otherwise, and I do have friends.But friends are not enough. I've never felt loved, nobody ever wanted to be with me. I guess, it's our luck. I feel suicidal too at times, but is it worth it? To just give up our lives for being alone in this world? can't we do amazing stuff. Some people never give up no matter what, and I'd like to be like them, not the other way round. I know I am a loser, that I don't ve a girl, I am lonely, sometimes I just stare at my phone and wish there was someone out there for me too. When all my friends go out with their girls on saturdays, I sit alone in the house and paint, or I just go watch a movie alone. D\I never had a choice, I was meant to be this way, and so I am. Acceptance would make you feel a lil less stressed out buddy. And the knowledge of teh fact that there are people like you out there in the world might make you feel a lil better. Why not learn something new, or try to help people, that should make you feel like you have a purpose. Just don't give up man. i am fighting for the last 27 years, and I am still the way I was. I just never found the one who. so what, I'd just go away hiking or travelling and see what the world is like. Cheer up buddy! Think about the positive aspects