How do I move on??

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I was sexually abused when I was a teenager and it lead to multiple abusive relationships…anyway I was able to deal with it, or sweep it under the rug, but lately things set me off. I will hear a song or see or smell something and it sets of something and it all comes flooding back…like it just happened yesterday. I have been single for 6 years and I am scared to be with someone…but I also long for someone…I’m so confused…I just want to know how to lead a normal life…

Category: asked December 29, 2013

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This might be an appropriate time to seek professional help and counselling. You have survived a traumatic event in your life and need to have time to properly heal from it (rather than simply coping with day-to-day life). Maybe talk to your GP about it and they may have some strategies or refer you to a specialist.
Apart from that, it is completely normal to be confused about relationships. You can easily grow used to one style of living (partnered or single) and change is always daunting. Take it slowly and only take steps you are comfortable with. When you feel ready, approach the world of dating with your best interests in mind! Good luck!
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Hi, thanks for your question. It's very tragic and melancholic to be sexually abused, especially from such a young age. The emotional pain must be immense. And I can see why that is still affecting you so many years later. Moving on is easier said than done. It varies with people, some can just forget it over time, some can burry it by allocating to another place, some can find the right people to recover. I think you should take one step at a time. For example, looking for a hobby, participating in volunteer work, something social,,, and feel the joy, reminisce of the joy that allowed you to interact with people, talk with people. And who knows, through these events, you might happen to find someone you know you can trust and love.