How do I handle this situation?

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The whole situation started when I had a huge crush on my best friend but she told me she’s asexual and not interested. So I decided to date someone else I had been interested in for a while. We dated for two years and four months when I decided to break up because I still have a crush on my best friend. I asked her if we could date but she told me even though she has a crush on me too she’s not interested in dating, and my now ex is upset with me for breaking up with him and wanting to date someone else. I don’t want to lose either of them but I don’t know how to handle the situation either because I care for both of them very much and I love both of them.

Category: Tags: asked April 30, 2014

3 Answers

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That is rather upsetting and I'm sorry that you're having to deal with such heartache. I think it would be best for you to take a step back and focus on yourself, just for a little while. It may seem silly, but you should make sure that you're happy before trying to please your ex or best friend. Take some time for yourself. It won't be easy to put the feelings at bay while you think things over, but you can do it! You deserve to be happy!! :D
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just keep swimming ...
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The asexual friend seems confused. She claims to be asexual but told you that she has a crush on you? She is probably trying to figure out herself right now and needs time to do it. On the other hand you have this girl that you had a long relationship with who is still interested. You care deeply about both of them but you have to think about the asexual girl. She may never want a relationship and you would have put all that time in. I think you should date the girl that was with you before. You guys seem to work well together if your relationship lasted that long and she knows what she wants. I would go for her. Best of luck!