I have this “friend”/ ex boyfriend who seems to think it’s his personal job to lecture me and judge me on every relationship , life or money choice I’ve ever made in my life
If I date a new guy, he proceeds to tell me I’m moving on too fast, and that I should still be single. If I spend any money, he lectures me on my spending. If I slipped up at work, he would badger me about what I did wrong. If I wanted to vent to him, he would make sure I felt horrible about complaining.
He’s recently told me I should remain single for a while, amd that while I’m still at Job Corp, I should completely isolate myself,amd that I shouldn’t be concerned with having friends, and that my future should be more important than maintaining a healthy relationship with my friends and family. He’s also said I need to listen to him, or I’m doomed
I admit I’m not the best with my life. But I’m currently working towards a Certificate in Office Administration, at Job Corps . I’m engaged to my boyfriend, and we’re working towards becoming financially stable together. I have a functional relationship with most of my friends and family. I pay my own phone bill. I’m trying out best to grow up and be responsible
He left home to date a 15 year old girl at 19 years old. He moved in with her, and expected her family to support him. He had, and still has no job. Hr now is supported by his aunt. And his grandmother pays his phone bill. He’s lost almost all his friends.
I firmly believe that all my mistakes are learning devices, that have taught me lessons. I feel my mistakes made me who I am today. And I believe his mistakes made him who he is today. If not for your hose mistakes, he would’ve not learned valuable lessons.
His judgemental nature often leaves me feeling pretty down about my life amd choices. It makes me feel extremely bad about a lot of what I’ve done.
I know I shouldn’t care about what he says, but I do
What should I do?
(FYI, him and I are both 20)