How do I come out to my family?

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I’m gay, and I honestly don’t think it’s that big of a deal. However, it’s a big part of who I am and what I may become and I feel it’s important that I let my parents know. I’m sure both of them have their suspicions already, and I’m not too worried about them knowing, but their siblings are not the most welcoming towards individuals who lead alternative lifestyles.
I enjoy the big family get-togethers, and I don’t think life would be quite the same without them. I guess I’m afraid of losing that experience when (not “if”; my parents’ families are very communicative) they find out I’m gay.
I wish I could just tell them to not tell anyone, but that seems like it may be asking too much of them to keep secrets for me.
I’m just not sure what to do at this point.

Category: Tags: asked February 25, 2014

2 Answers

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I recently came out to my parents :) I came out through a letter. I wrote it, and stuck it to their mirror at midnight, so they read it when they woke up. They were both accepting of it :) If you have any siblings, tell them one-on-one, it's what I did too :) If you have any questions, mail me :) Good luck !!
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My initial thought is always: "Sure, come out to whoever, it's part of you and everyone should accept you for it." Unfortunately reality isn't quite like that. I'll just speak for myself here. I never really made big plans to come out, because I refuse to bend to this popular idea that liking the same sex is such an abnormality, it needs to be confessed to anyone. To me the most important thing was, that I am comfortable and at ease with myself, everyone else just has to accept that and I don't feel compelled to share my personal preferences with others, unless I decide to. Sexuality is something you live, no one else. No matter what your parents, friends or anyone else thinks of it. I casually told my brother and my closest friends, because I wanted them to know and knew they wouldn't make a big deal out of it. If someone happens to ask me, I tell them too. I haven't told my parents yet, they will know once they meet my girlfriend, that I yet have to find, much like anyone else will. At that point they either accept it or they don't, that's not for us to decide ever. However.. gotta live life regardless, huh? (:
Good luck with whatever you decide to do, and I hope they accept you for who you are.