How do boys even work?

Okay, confused venting. I’ve recently discovered through, any sort of relationshuppylike, rigorous introspective interrogation, that I like this boy I know. I’m fairly sure he’s liked me for about a year or so. But since I’ve realized that I like him, he’s stopped texting me/talking to me as often as we used to. I never told him I liked him, and he never told me he liked me. It just suddenly got awkward between us without any change in the way we communicate. Also, I’m a teenage girl and this is pretty much the first person I’ve ever considered romantically. Help, please? I’m not so good with relationshippy stuff and never have been, so I can’t really assess the situation. Anyone with experience in this field who wants to help me out would be great.

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Keep in mind that just as you are confused by these new feelings, so is practically everyone else your age. Nobody has it all figured out by their 18th birthday, no matter how "with it" they seem, or how cool they play things, everybody is equally confused and basically scared.

Treat him like a human being; talk to him, get to know him better; he's going through puberty changes just like you, so he's having new feelings, new thoughts, new intensity of emotion. He probably has a lot to say and might not know how to say it. That's part of the beauty of social dynamics. :)

Be ceaselessly patient, with yourself and with others, and always keep in mind to put as much effort as you can to focus on solutions instead of problems. Focusing on problems will run you in circles! (and don't you feel confused enough as it is?)

if you want to discuss this any further, my inbox is always open.

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