I dumped mine, so maybe it is different if you are the one that got left instead of doing the leaving. I refused to talk about him to anyone, that way I couldn't say good or bad things about him. I found out shortly after I did leave him he'd been cheating on me for a while (long distance relationship)... I'd gone down to surprise him for his b-day and he was acting shady. Turns out he'd had to leave the other girl's bed to come meet me at his mother's house. I ended up completely shattered and had a very close guy friend take advantage of that vulnerability and try to sleep with me. At that point I didn't really care, so I went with it. The sex was terrible and I knew that I didn't mean much of anything to him afterwards... So I said I wasn't going to be used, I had too much else at the time to worry about, so I cut both men out of my life for good. I deleted their phone numbers and got my number changed, shut down my facebook after blocking both of them, etc. so I couldn't contact them should I ever lose my mind and desire to do so and so I knew they couldn't keep contacting me and playing my emotions. I focused on work and school, made the dean's list, and had a lot more on my plate just after all of that mess went down that took my mind completely off of them. I found someone that loves me for me, not what he can get from me, and we are due to be married sometime next year (his deadline, not mine) after having been together for over 3 years now. Those BOYS showed me exactly how I should NOT be treated by a real MAN.