How can I get over this?

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I’m sorry if this is too long and boring to read. :) I met my best friend when I was only three years old. Since then, we were unseparated. We hang out all the fricking time, until we went to fifth grade – and transferred schools. The good thing about that was, we transfered schools together so I was like “This is definetly not gonna be a bad idea.” – but I was hell of a wrong. Fifth grade actually influenced his thinking and way of developing that he turned into a little, annoying ‘cool guy’ just because he wants to fit in with the others. Yes of course, he replaced me with the cool kids and moved on years and years – and I’m still here stuck in the past. People often go, why do you care? He moved on and I should move on too? Wrong. I will never forget the friend that I met, the friend that I laughed and cheered and had crazy times with – I will never forget him. I still try to save our friendship but he is too caught up in the ‘cool kids’ act that he doesn’t even notice it. How do I move on without him? I can’t stand the pain.

Category: Tags: asked August 20, 2013

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Loads of people get like that when they move up schools. Especially lads when they want to be 'cool'. Really, the best thing is if you have your own new mates, maybe talk to them about it, and maybe try to talk to him yourself and ask him. Unfortunately people do move on quickly when you go to a new school and get new friends, that's life. But yeah, as long as you have good friends behind you, that's the most important thing I guess ^_^
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"It's okay to revisit the past, but don't get stuck there."
You can still appreciate and reminisce about the friendship you had with him, but you do need to focus on the present and start accepting that he's not who he was back then.
People change and there's nothing we can do about it. You're only hurting yourself by keeping yourself stuck in the past.
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This happened to me too, my best friend and i were unseperable until she did the same thing and turned 'cool' and left me behind :/ i am afraid to say that our friendship was never the same since. Unless you can get talking to him, preferably alone so you guys can reconnect again then there may not be anything you can do. What you need to do is try and find another best friend. someone who likes you for the way you are NOW and wont judge you for not trying to be cool. You can still keep those happy memories, just dont live in them or could could miss out on some new and awesome friends.
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I expirienced something like that. exept my friend decided to stop talking to me and block me everywhere. What I did or do is just really cherish/appreciate the friendship we once had. I will not lie, still "in my heart" she is my friend, someone that I really care about. but I say to myself and think that she is gonna be alright, she is going to be just fine, that maybe one day well talk again, but if we dont I still hope life gives her a great time and people that care and help her.
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Don't get stuck in the past, child. People will change and you have to be ready for that. He won't just 'change' back because you want him to, He's in a different crowd now. Life goes on. Don't be held back in the past or it will affect you. Just let go and move on.