I have a friend that I don’t want to keep in my life. She has not really done anything wrong, but she just reminds me so much of a time and place where I was very unhappy. Each time I see her I kind of fall back into the feelings I had then, and I don’t want that anymore. I have now moved away, started a new life and completely let go of the old one. However, this friend wont seem to let me go. She keeps calling and asking me to let her come and visit. This would not be too difficult if we lived close to each other, then I could take it every once in a while. But we live in different countries which means that the only way for us to meet is if one of us goes for at least a weekend or more to stay with the other. This is too much for me, and I don’t want to do it anymore. Yet she wont leave me alone. How should I deal with this? Can I just stop answering her calls and replying to her mesages, or should I tell her about how I really feel? Is it cruel of me to do this? I feel bad about this of course, but the thought of keeping her in my life is even worse. Anyone have advice?