Help with with this relationship!

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Met this guy ramdomly online. He was attracted to something I said. And felt that he wanted to get to know me. We live in different countries, and have been talking now for about 10 months. At first, I did not talk to him much I just accepted his friend request. But, then we started talking a lot. At least once a week, now once daily, and all day and night sometimes. He came on strong at first with flirting. Then after seeing that I was in a happily commited relationship, he backed off some and started mentioning his girlfriend. He tells me a lot about his personal issues, and asked for advice a lot. He sometimes will throw in things like “My girlfriend is ungrateful, but Your a sweetheart, I would bend over backwards for you” and will say I love you my friend. He will compliment me on how great of a friend I am to him. And thanks me often for being there to support him. But then it gets confusing when he will say things like I wish we could move somewhere just the 2 of us and have children. If we were together it would be…. Just random stuff like that. I stopped messaging him for 2 weeks and he messaged me to say that he missed me. I am wondering what is running through his head. What do you think? Friend, or something more!!

Category: asked July 12, 2014

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I think it is safe to say that he has feelings for you. Comments like that definitely mean, to myself at least, that he was/still is looking for a more permanent and committed relation between you two. As for how you should react to him, well I feel like you need to make clear what you are feeling as well. Since you are in a happy relationship I would recommend you tell him that while you can still be there to help him with any relational problems that he might have (if that is indeed your wish), you are not looking at him in the same way. Make abundantly clear what you intentions are, is my advice.