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My ex boyfriend still tries to talk to me on Skype or Facebook, and I’m trying to get over him. I HAVE to reply to him (I dunno, I can never not reply to a message) and I don’t wanna be rude and tell him to go away, but he flirts with me, and insults me. I currently have a boyfriend and I can’t be focusing on my ex and not my current boyfriend. I used to have an interest in my ex boyfriend before I met my current boyfriend, and I think he thinks I still like him. How can I tell him nicely that I want to focus on my boyfriend and not him?

Category: Tags: asked March 28, 2014
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The best/most effective/only real way to get your point across is to stand your ground firm and be honest and in control. You know what you want so get it. He isn't treating you fairly and he needs to know that most of all. He shouldn't be insulting you. You really don't even have to mention your new boyfriend(a lot of times it just creates more tension) However, there are plenty of reasons why you shouldn't devote your time to him. You can do this.
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You can be as nice as you want, but that doesn't stop him from keeping you in a dialogue by replying and arguing against what you say, nor prevents him from being hurt, if that's what worries you. So, block away, and do not respond whatever makes it through, or you'll teach him your boundaries can be just broken. "I want to focus on my boyfriend" sounds clear enough, use that as the last sentence you'll say to him.
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Men count on women to be pleasing and sweet. Women usually don't want to hurt feelings or seem rude and this is the reason why so many of us are abused or hurt by men. There have been incidents where a women who was trying to be nice in order to save face was murdered. He doesn't love or respect you if he isn't leaving you alone. In his eyes, you belong to him and he doesn't care about your feelings. Block that mother fucker. He'll get over it soon enough and find some other girl to be an asshole to.
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You cannot nicely make a rude person leave you alone. Get out of your comfort zone and be assertive. Tell him to leave you alone, then block him.
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Agreed, you have to put your foot down and be firm. You mentioned he insults you, if he's so rude then why put so much thought into putting it nicely? Just state what you need to happen, plain and simple. Don't entertain his messages when he replies since that will only invite him to talk to you again. He won't see much point in trying to contact you if you stop responding all together.
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[.jessica|acissej.]
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Easy and Simple....When he contacts you do not message back!
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