Having trouble meeting people

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I just started college as many of you know. I really want to meet people but I’m too shy. My mom says just go up and introduce yourself in the cafeteria but i just can’t I’m to worried about what they’ll say or do. it’s a community college i must add.

Category: asked September 9, 2013

7 Answers

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I was the same way when I first started college. I can definitely be tough when you go in on your first day and don't know anyone. If you're a more introverted person like I am then I would suggest you just relax and go to your classes like normal. Everyone is nervous on their first day of college so if you are, don't think that you're the only one. I personally found that group projects in class help out a lot when trying to meet new people because you're forced to work together and communicate with each other. This has led myself to meet some very kind and interesting people. There is also no harm in striking up a conversation with a fellow classmate who you notice shares the same interests as you. With these in mind, however, don't feel like you need to stray too far out of your comfort zone. There are always people out there who feel the same way you do and who knows, they may just end up taking the initiative to speak to you.
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Try to sit in similar places in classes, next to people who seem friendly. Ask them some questions, say you forgot a pen or syllabus or whatever...Try to joke around, make some comments about the professor or course or homework or whatever...And if a good conversation starts, don't be afraid to ask for a phone number. Especially as a freshman, it's the only sure way to make nail down the modern college kid! I know, it seems awkward, I felt the same way. But just be open to all of the new people and experiences that have been presented to you. It's changed my life and the way I look at myself, and interactions with others. Don't fear! Everyone is scared in college, but it can also be an incredibly enlightening and fun part of your life. Good luck, I wish you all the luck in the world!
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Try talking to people you sit next to in class, ask people in your classes fro homework help during a free period or lunch time. Join committees or clubs, try and get as actively involved as you can with people rather than going to a group, try individuals. Just saying "wow I really like your shirt" to someone can help, truly.
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What really works for me is just complimenting them on something. Like if someone has a cool shirt with a reference to something that you like, tell them about it! Usually they are good enough in conversation to carry it for you if you're shy like I am.
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I understand what you're going through, I was a shy kid growing up too. As an introvert, this is a problem, but one that can be fixed. One way I have found out to get yourself out there is to talk to anybody you find interesting. (i.e. Hey, I like your shirt, where did you get it?) A lot of people do find it relieving when someone else starts a conversation. And when you get to talking someone and they tell you something about them self, (i.e. "I like knitting" or something like that) accept them for it and boom, you're on your way to making a new friend.
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Everybody has interests.. I joined a club about those interests and met a lot of friends that way... I even made some really close friends... bonus is that they automatically share your interestsI'm not a very socially adept person by any means and it worked for me.
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It would start with a smile. :)