Has anyone ever got back with an ex years later?

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It might be premature but my now ex girlfriend and I broke up about 3 weeks ago and I love her more than anything more in this world and would do anything for her. I realize that we need to move on and do our own thing for a long time but I feel like once we have had time to mature more and grow up that there is a possibility to find each other again and find the chemistry that brought us together in the first place, and be a couple again. She even said something along the lines of that. We dated for 4 1/2 years and were both 21 and in college right now. So has anyone had experience getting back with an ex after a long amount of time, what did it feel like, any regrets getting back or breaking it off in the first place, or if you were back with them start realizing things that you didn’t like about them? Just need some advice about it

Tags: asked January 30, 2014

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your guys answers and stories do help me what to know what to expect and what advice to take and I appreciate that. This girl and I both realize that we need space to grow and it seems like we will both be in different relationships eventually but also understand that there is potential for some kind of future together. There are no guarantees and I also realize that, so I am working on moving on at the moment and taking it day to day assuming that not all days are going to be good. I am good at the moment though :)
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It does happen, but for the time being, it would probably be better for you to focus on yourself. Give yourself time to detox off of the relationship.
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I understand where you're coming from. I was in a relationship that ended about a year ago, and I was devastated. We both kind of made promises to each other to just do our own thing and then find our way back to each other. I was completely in love with him. I thought I was going to for sure going to marry him one day. But like I said, that was almost a year ago. And now he's in a serious relationship with another girl, and I'm alone. And honestly, I'm 100% okay with it. Time really does heal everything. Everyone's situation is different, so who knows, maybe things will work out for you guys in the future. But me personally, looking back on everything and seeing where I am now, I wouldn't ever get back with him. I still love him, but it's not the love I had for him when the relationship ended. It's more of a caring love. If he needed someone, I'd be there for him. We don't ever talk anymore, but if he'd text me and needed someone to talk to I'd still be there for him. Trust me, just use this time to your advantage. Go out and do things you've always wanted to do. Don't expect that in a year or so you guys will get back together, because there's a good chance you won't. And that doesn't have to be a bad thing. Maybe you'll find someone else that'll make you realize why it didn't work out with this girl. It's crazy what can happen. Focus on the now, not the past or even the future. Everything will be alright, I PROMISE. If you need anything, feel free the message me. There are a lot of people who are here for you.
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My godmother and her husband dated for three years and then broke. They stayed apart for a year and then ended up getting back together. They've been married for about ten years now and they have two boys. I've asked her about it before and she said that the break up wasn't her happiest day, but she realized that it was necessary at the time. He needed to go out and figure himself and the world out and she needed sometime to focus on her studies. That time apart showed them that they really were meant for each other. So as cliche as it is to say: if it's meant to be then it will be.