H ow do I make friends in cyber school?

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Hi! I’m a 13 year old who attends cyber school. The reason I attend this is because I was bullied when I was in real school. I have social anxiety to be around people because I was bullied for a disability that made it hard for me to be a normal kid. Now that I am in an entirely different place, I get terrified when around people. That’s why I am not going to a real school this year. How do I make friends while in this cyber school? I am afraid tl go to places lkke a mall and movie theaters scare the livjng crap out of me. My disability makes it hard for me to be active. What do I do when the only thing im good at is gaming? Thank you guys for your time.

Category: Tags: asked August 12, 2014

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Hey Smurg!I am so sorry about what happened to you at school and about your disability. It seems in today's world people can have no feelings at all.My best advice for you is to fully be yourself. Don't hold back on telling people who you are, what you love and your personality! Learn to love yourself and know you are an amazing person! You are capable of anything with your heart and soul into it and I know you can do it :)With anxiety, try to find things to help you cope when you feel scared. For me, it's music. I listen to my music whenever I feel down and scared. If you can find ways to help battle it by doing things you love, it truly helps a ton.I hope this helps and I wish you the best of luck in school and always remember never give up and you are capable of so much :)
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Online I find it somewhat harder to connect with others, though that doesn't mean a bond can't be formed between two people. I'm sorry to hear you were bullied, I get it though, I've been through verbal, physical, and cyber bullying and it can be really tough. In cyber school, do you have the ability to talk to others? If so I would suggest just starting a conversation like you would talk to someone you're just meeting in person. If you find you enjoy talking to another member of your cyber school and find common interests you can go on to exchanging emails or other ways of communication and get to know each other more. You seem like a genuinely good person and even in writing that will show through. If you grow closer to whoever you meet, then what you two do whether you decide to meet or video chat or anything else, will be entirely up to you. As for your anxiety, I would like to emphasize Jack's suggestion of music as a way to calm your nerves. Drawing and writing tend to settle my mind as well, though I suggest anything you like doing. Even thinking about things you like is great! Also try to take deep steady breaths when you start feeling anxious. I wish you the best of luck!
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I'm not a gamer so I wouldn't know the answer to this but if there are groups of gamers that organize events online maybe you could look into that? I would suggest going to a gaming convention but that might be very triggering anxiety wise. It could possibly be tolerable though, if the thought that the people there share your interests comforts you.Find excuses to go out of your house. It doesn't have to be going to the mall or crowded places but it can be hard to meet people with out leaving. Perhaps you could join a nerdfighters group (idk if you're a john green fan) or something of the sort. There are all sorts of interest groups on fb that hold events. You just have to know to look for them. So think of your top interests and do some searches on fb. If you go to a few events with one group, you'll make some friends for sure.One more suggestion. If your family goes to a church or other religious/spiritual place of worship, you could try joining a youth group. It may not be your thing but it could be worth a try!
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Well, the upside is that on the internet, physical appearance, skill, and health do not matter at all. What matters is what's between your ears, and how you use it. It has the double-edged sword of anonymity - no-one knows who you are, there are no pre-conceived notions about you, and whatever people say - you can always just log off and leave. It also encourages people to act like twats because they too, can simply log off and leave without any repercussions.

My advice would simply be to say hello to people. Presumably there's a forum or chat of some sort to keep in contact - so start a topic about gaming. Either your favourite game, or just in general. Odds are you'll find a few people to talk to quite swiftly, since pretty much everyone and their dog plays games these days. In the stupendously unlikely case that you can't find any gamers amongst your schoolmates, you can always look for other people who do game. The beauty of the world is that it's filled with an endless supply of people, and there'll always be a few out there who like you.

Depending on the kind of games you enjoy playing, it should be relatively easy to join in a related community. If it's a single player game, look up forums, chat rooms, modding communities or whatnot and hang around there. If it's a multiplayer game, look up a guild/clan/alliance/corporation or whatever it's called in your game of choice. Simply start with a hi. Offer to help people, give advice, explain things or possibly start tinkering around with mods. Just talk about the game, or game related things. People will talk back. Move on to different things when you feel comfortable enough with said people. Repeat until friends.

I realise I'm making it sound a lot simpler than it might seem - but that really is it. You get better at making friends by making new friends. You get better at talking to people by talking to people. Experience is the way to go in these cases.