Girls, Ladies, Women – What do you look for in a guy, or in a relationship? Is my bar set too high?

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To describe myself, I’m 22, good looking, have my own car, & possess a confident, intelligent, & ambiverted personality. Here’s the thing, I don’t expect a perfect 10. I just want someone who’s beautiful, in-shape (or curvy), has a sense of humor, & shares similar values. I’m starting to become hopeless with this dating game, because for some reason I can’t get from dating to relationship. Is it because I don’t have sex with them by the 3rd date? I never get in the friend zone, because when I date women they know what my intentions are, especially when kissing them. No I’m not the type of person that looks for one night stands or sex on the first date or anything like that. Ugh…I don’t know what I’m doing wrong here…

Anyway, girls what is your advice how a guy can transition from a 1st date to a loving relationship? What do you look for in a man? What do you want during the dating process? Any dating tips? What personality means to you? What physical or personality characteristics do you value? What a relationship looks like to you?

I need a female’s perspective on, well, pretty much everything dating. :(
Help me, I’m a lonely fella!!!

Category: Tags: asked August 31, 2015

6 Answers

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I'm 23 and well, different women have different preference in men. For me, i usually like those who i can have some intellectual conversations with, or just someone witty. sarcasm works well with me. I like conservative men as well. i have guy friends who are nerdy in a way and i'm having fun talking to them about books, comics, ,anime and tv series like game of thrones, arrow, mr.robot etc..i think if you want to be in a relationship with someone, you just have to court them. bring flowers, chocolates.. ask their parents politely that you want to go out with their daughter. or maybe even serenade them, play some instruments or whatever that'll make them feel special. be cheesy, those rom-coms aren't made for nothing. And even if it works, don't stop the courtship. Be interested with her, study her. never stop being interested with the girl.i'm a bit old-fashioned so i don't know if it works for the kind of girl you wanted. there are 2 types of girls. Ms.Right and Ms.RightNow... you know the drill buddy ^^
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I'm quite young, but for me, I normally want someone who's funny and someone I can share emotional experiences with. Someone who truly can share something different with me that just a regular relationship. I like someone who is quite lighthearted and caring. Physically speaking, I'd like someone hygienic and someone who takes care of their body instead of neglecting it. As for a relationship, I usually want a healthy one (go figure) and something casual enough. I tend to not like one that's too lovey dovey, as for sex, well, I'd like to think that we'd say it when both of us are ready. I think one big factor in keeping a healthy and loving relationship is communication. If you don't say what you want or what is missing, then you won't understand how to satisfy each other. During dating, perhaps the 3rd date is early for sex for some women, it is difficult to know whether to have it or not when it's so early on and if it happens, well it happens. While dating, it is important to really know the person, carefully examine them, don't overlook anything, that being said, don't overthink anything else either. I think that you're just in a rut, after all, you don't always have to look for love, love may find you. All of the luck goes to you!
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Hey, Jim, it's good to see you around again.

The rat-race of finding a compatible partner can get exhausting, but you must keep in mind that there are millions of people in one city alone, and we meet maybe 100,000 people in our lifetimes on average. So wading through that sheer volume of people to find desirable traits takes considerable time and energy, but once you really know what you're looking for in a person, the process begins to speed up a bit because you can begin to bring up relevant topics that broach their larger views, allowing you to accurately reflect their personality and beliefs to see if they match with yours.

The best approach is always to be candid. Talk openly and bluntly about your most passionate topics, don't be evasive or closed-mouthed, hoping to reel them in now and hope they like everything about you later.
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Honestly, I don't care about what they look like. If they make me laugh, and they treat me well, and they know how to be a gentleman, that's perfectly fine with me. I also like gamers though because I'm one myself. I also don't want to date just for fun. I might be seventeen, but I want to date someone to see who I would like to marry one day. I want a family. PDA is also nice as well because women feel like you care and don't mind showing that she's with you. Loyalty and honesty is also on top of the list because a woman is a treasure. She doesn't want someone who is going to hurt her.
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Here is my short sweet and to the point answer. Honestly, you just have to get lucky and find the right person. There could be plenty of the right one, or there could be not as many, but there really is more than one of the right person, in my own opinion. It can be really hard to find the right person that can be long lasting. Everyone is very different so while one woman might want one thing, another might not. I for one don't think that there is any problem with your approach described it the first paragraph.
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Don't give up. Your expectations aren't too high, you just haven't found the right woman yet. A lot of it has to do with timing, when it comes to dating. Some just aren't ready to settle down. Be patient and honest and you'll find "the one". :)