Friends?

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I want to be alone and theres this desire inside me that pushes me to isolate myself. The problem is that I have an online friend and Im completely dependent on her. I wish I wasn’t though because I want to end my relations with her. The other problem with that she’s depressed, etc etc (its not my place to say what her issues are exactly.) Then theres the fact that she barely messages back; she’ll just message me the next day and this is very constant. It hurts because I feel rejected by her; almost as if Im a pest but i know that I’ve been “helping her.” I can’t tell her any of this because she doesnt deserve for me to leave or for me to complain or for me to talk about myself at all. She’s dealing with worse and I shouldn’t wreck but somehow I still end up doing that. Im completely lost at this point.

Category: Tags: asked May 25, 2013

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Wait...so you want to be alone but when this friend doesn't talk to you, you feel rejected? Isn't that controversial?
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I'm so sorry you're going through this. I was in a scarily similar situation not too long ago.

I'm assuming that you met each other when you both needed someone badly, and were both dependent on each other. As awful as it sounds, people in those sorts of situations don't always end up friends, even if they save each others' lives.

If you still think that she's not quite there to be independent of herself, then please keep enduring this until she gets a little better. Cutting off contact with her now, when she needs you the most, will ruin her life. You said that she has it worse than you, so you need to stick around until you believe that it would be the right time to start having a serious conversation regarding the entire issue. Only when you think she's ready, explain that you care deeply about her and that she's helped you though so much, but it's time for you to move on because you're not comfortable with having to be so dependent on another person.