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One day I was in this chat room and there were 3 guys.One asked for my Skype and messaged me when I wasn’t on. He would hit on me sometimes. I saw him hitting on a girl (A) and her doing it back, so I thought they were together but she disappeared. Then a few days later I saw another girl come into the chatroom (L) and he and her got into a fight and he said he saw her cheating and she admitted and he said he burnt his ring. L came back and they were saying they loved each other till one night he was gone and she came back saying he dumped her and she was leaving. He told me a little later after L left he was in love with me. We started going together. 3 days ago A came back asking for his new accounts saying he was ignoring her phone calls. She told me he’s her bf and that she’ll try calling him again. I told her he was my bf, she read my message and disappeared. I told him about it, after he said I should trust him he said I’m better off without him. He’s been telling me he loves me, but about 2 days ago my friend said he was just saying that cause he doesn’t want me to be upset and she thinks hes a good guy. Earlier today he told me he loved me very much and was very sorry, then he said he had to go out a few hours. Then later when I texted him he said he’s going to bed and he loves me.

Category: asked May 18, 2015

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Trust is definitely important in a relationship, however some misuse this to go like "you should trust me". It's not always all that, sometimes someone throws it around as an excuse. The whole situation with those girls makes it sound like he's playing a game. It could also be that he jumps into a new relationship really fast. Communication is also important in a relationship, so they can't always give you the "trust me" rhetoric. If he's truly sorry, then that's good. However, if there's a pattern with him continuously apologizing for the same things over and over again, then it is no longer a mistake that he regrets, but a conscious choice. I hope all goes well for you.