Does he like me or is he just being friendly?

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I wanted to get an outside opinion on this, as I’m trying to be rational and not get my hopes up. It’s not something that I’d want to talk about with friends just yet, so why not ask a bunch of strangers?

I work in a retail pharmacy, and there is a man that also works for this retail chain. He does not work at my location, but does every once in a while when we need shifts covered and is able. He’s an intern to be a pharmacist and has worked for the company longer than I have.

He’s very nice, and was quick to introduce himself to me. He always has such a big smile. When we work the same shift, he always wants to help me do things or do them for me. Whenever I have to do count drugs, he will come over to my station and help me with the task, whether it’s 50 prescriptions or 10 prescriptions. At the end of the night, I take the tills from the registers up to the front, and he wants to carry them for me because he “didn’t want you to think I’m not being a gentleman.” Which I thought was nice of him to be considerate.

When patients drop off prescriptions and there might be an issue with it (whether it be no written date, out of stock, what have you), we may have to page the patient back to the pharmacy to let them know. Whenever he has to do so, he will walk past ten other people to come find me to page them because he didn’t want to “mess up their names” and that I’m much better at it than he is, which was flattering, in a way. Or when he has to call a doctor and they have a difficult last name, instead of asking the two pharmacists or anyone else, he’ll walk past all of them to find and ask me. Even sometimes, he’ll ask me questions about things to which I’m almost positive he already knows the answers. I thought about it and wondered, why he would avoid everyone else and ask the person that has worked here the shortest amount of time (at the time, not even a year)?

He jokes and teases with me, and when a friend of mine (who is also my coworker) was joking with him, he had to pull me into the conversation and say that I’d team up with him or have his back, what have you. When she asked him if he had his PCAT books for her to use, he said he’d have to go through all his stuff to find them, but if I, myself, needed it, he’d definitely find it.

On a Friday, my pharmacist and I were discussing that we ran out of a certain size of lids for vials and were going to borrow some from another store until we got our order in, and we had been discussing this throughout the day. I wasn’t sure if he knew I was working the next day or not, but he volunteered to bring them from his store. I didn’t think that he would be working at his store and would go 20 minutes out of his way (and on his lunch break) to bring them up to our store. But not only that, he then takes even more time to say hi to me and talk to me. Again, I’m not sure if it was coincidental or not.

One of the last days he worked at our store for some time, we were all clocking out and going home. I had to clock out after him, so when he was finished clocking out, he turned around and stared at me, kind of stumbling, as if he had something to say. To not make it seem awkward, I said “It was great working with you, hopefully you come back soon!” to which he replied, “Oh, I’ll be back, don’t you worry.”

I wanted to think of it as him just being friendly, but now that some time has passed, I started to think about it. And the more I thought about it, I’ve now started to develop a crush on him. Along with the aforementioned actions, he’s good looking (it helps when you work in a pharmacy and he has to dress nice being an intern) but also not the type of person I normally go for (Let’s face it, I’ve learned that the ones I normally go for are usually mean in the end). I haven’t seen him in a while, since he attends pharmacy school more than 2.5 hours away and is only home on breaks, usually working at his location.

So, do you think he was just being friendly, or did he seem interested in me? I’d rather get some sort of opinion before I get my hopes up. I’m trying to be rational before putting myself out there.

I’m also aware that you shouldn’t date someone that you work with, although I think dating someone that doesn’t work there permanently, and not all the time, is a different situation. I wouldn’t want to do anything to jeopardize my job, since jobs are hard to find (and I actually like my job!).

Thanks, everyone!

Category: asked February 5, 2014

10 Answers

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He likes you, plain and simple. You probably have felt it for a while, but did not want to trust your instincts. I know this is going to sound cliché, but follow your heart :).
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The best way to find out is just to ask him. Put yourself out there. The worst he can say is no and even then you two can still be good friends. Don't torture yourself with what-ifs. Just ask.
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He definitely likes you! If he goes out of his way just to talk to you, he obviously loves your attention. I would say go for it, but honestly, just go with what you feel in your heart :) If he just wants to be friends, at least you don't have to wonder anymore
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After reading everything I think it is pretty clear that he likes you 100% ;)
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He's definitely friendly and I think he likes you, too. And if you're a professional, I don't think it would mess up with your work. If I were you (which I'm not, mind you), I'd go for him. :) Good luck and much success in every decision you'll make!
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I would say "He likes you!" like everyone else, but then I wouldn't be honest in the fact that I really don't know the signs on how someone likes you. The way you read things can be totally different on his perspective--not that I'm saying he doesn't like you. I had a friend chase a guy for three years of her life because she was waiting for him to at least ask her on a date, but he never did. And I have a roommate who is always mistaken as liking someone when she really doesn't, she's just being nice and likes being around those who want to be around her. So it all depends. I would say "he likes you!" And I'm pretty sure that he does. But you'll just have to see into the future where your relationship goes with him. But I would take into considering avoiding the dating scene with someone you work with. It's really up to you though, and if you two end up dating while also working together, that's fine too, it's your life and sometimes we go for feelings, no matter if they're in the workplace or in some informal location. I hope that didn't disappoint you and I hope the honesty wasn't considered brutal. Appears to me that he probably likes you. You'll just have to see what the future holds :)
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*thumbs-up*
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Thank you to those that have responded. I'm happy to have all different perspectives, and (if we happen to see each other again) it's starting to give me the push I need. The more responses/opinions the better, so this has helped a ton!SilentRain, your response was not brutal. I quite enjoyed the honesty.
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It sounds as if he'll find any excuse to interact with you, sounds a lot as if he likes you.
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Thank you for the responses. I've been reading over them and my gears are starting to turn.