(Sorry if something’s incorrect in the text, English isn’t my mother tongue and I found it difficult to write this) I find myself thinking about my dad and I’ve come to the conclusion that he hardly seems like a dad to me. He’s more like the man I live with. My parents are seperated and my dad’s working aboard. That means that I live with my mom for 10-14 days periods and after those periods I stay 5-9 days with dad (exceptions on holidays).
During these days I am with my dad we’re out of touch. First off he’s tired from the traveling which I understand but then he seems to find no time for me. He does favors like driving me to activites and etc.
The only times he has asked me how I am doing was when I broke down and cried about various things. One time I even explained that I think that we hardly have any relation and it feels like he doesn’t care about me more than the basic stuff like getting me food or buying me clothes. We talked about it and nothing has seemed to change. He just sits and watch TV and do similair stuff.
What makes our relation harder is that I’ve got a stepmom who also lives in the house with my dad. I am not really fond of her because we rarely speak and she freaks out about all kinds of imaginable shit (one example is that one time, there was 6 leftover skewers with chicken on the evening after our BBQ in the fridge. I ate 3 and saved 3 so she wouldn’t freak. Guess what, she still did because they were meant to be given to her parents. She hadn’t even told me, situations like these aren’t uncommon). She and my dad are also fighting a lot about other things like who’s in for example charge of what.
The thing is that I am also bisexual. My dad has several times made it clear that he finds homosexuality unnatural. He even said once that I could have a boyfriend or girlfriend but if I had a girlfriend it would be better and more funny.
(There’s a lot more to the story but I’ll leave it out)
I have a feeling that if I explain all this to my dad he will try to act out like he could change all of this and he will talk with my stepmom and change himself but that he’s lacking time. But what fool wouldn’t I be if nothing’s changed once again. Do I have the right leave my dad behind and tell him that I want nothing to do with him? What should I do?
