Dealing with friend

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So we were friends at school for 7-8years and we both were you know, sensitive girls(esp me). In this(8th) grade she magically became popular in school. Ok, if she wanned that i dont mind. She has now more friends( esp Internet, from other cities), she created ask.fm and became even more popular. Now she gets hundreds of likes and etc. Ok. Shes still kinda “gentle” and good maybe friend to me. Our realitionship us down a bit, we dont talk a lot of personal stuff and etc. Ok, i understand that this just happens to friends sometimes, maybe im too boring cuz i dont have lot of friends. I think she uses me a bit maybe. I have a good camera so whenever we togheter somewhere for some reason she always asks for my phone to take photos of her/us. Shes very friendly then. At the end of the day she wants me to send her all the photos. So i do that on fb. Later she chooses a good photo for her self which sometimes includes me and uploads on ask.fm without saying nothing to me. I know it sounds like not a big deal but it really pisses me of. She didnt even say that she has askfm. I have found it accidently. So she uploads those photos of her best looking and im just look not very good. Sad thing is that all school sees those photos. She get comments like ” wow whos that girl on the left.she looks hot. She looks the best in this photo. So cute!:*” and theres she on the left! And im just there looking like a shit. I get very sad( sometimes i get panic attacks) after seeing these things. Im now writing this after just seeing the mentioned thing. I dont mind if she even would say smth but now shes completely hiding everything from me but acts so good when she has me near her with camera. Idk what to do but my evening gets shitty whenever i look at her ask.. Should i not give a phone? Or say smth? Just serious answera pls

Category: Tags: asked June 8, 2014

2 Answers

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For starters, just tell her what you feel about having pictures uploaded that you didn't pick.
This lays the road to put in action these following behaviors: if you want some of the online pictures off, ask her if she's willing to cut you out of those. Unless you are comfortable with the picture being shared, when you see her taking a picture with her own devices, get out of the frame.
When she uses your camera, you have control of the pictures you send her later and can cut yourself out of them.
If you can't take reading unfiltered internet comments about yourself (it's very reasonable, nobody likes jerks), it's better if you avoid looking at them.
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people change alot, especially the friends we have in school. You have control over the pictures she takes because you have to send them to her later on facebook. talk to her and tell her you're not comfortable with her uploading pictures without your consult (and mention the fact that you didn't even know she was uploading them on her ask.fm) if she disagrees then just delete the pictures you don't like and then send them to her on facebook. or just don't let her take your phone if you think she's using you and taking away the camera would be the best way to know for sure. if she sticks with you even after you disagree to giving her the camera, then maybe she really does consider you a close friend