Dating help

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So to start off, I’ve never been on a date, in a relationship, nothing physical. I don’t hug any one, have never held hands; the absolute most I’ve done is high five people. Also, because some people seem to find this important for some reason, I’m currently 27 years of age.

My question is thus; I want to date some one, but I absolutely loathe the idea of doing so. I want the good things that every one seems to get, such as intimacy, sex, … Uh… some one to play video games with. Okay, I don’t know what all the good things are, but people just seem happy. Even those who are currently single but have dated in the past seem happier than me.

On the other hand, I simply hate the idea of doing it. I know for a fact there will be three possibilities to asking some one out. 1: Good: The reply in the negative and I can walk away. 2: They accept, but eventually dump me for never having any physical contact with them. 3: They rape me. Besides that, I also know that I’d severely frustrate any one I was in a relationship of any sort by simply never doing the right things at the right times, and they just want… to yell at me… or leave… or whatever.

So… what should I do? Inb4 some one says “see a therapist,” because that is FAR outside my financial means, and will remain so for several years/decades.

Category: asked November 6, 2014

4 Answers

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Just wait and let life go on. Focus on things such as your career, your family, and your friends. Some day, you'll be at Starbucks or at the store, and you'll run into somebody. And then, you found someone. It'll all come naturally once you meet that perfect somebody. Just let life go on and you'll find your way to each other eventually.
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A relationship isn't going to make you happy. You said you know people who have been in a relationship before and they are happier than you. Alot of the times that isn't the case. People tend to hide their feelings infront of other people. Sometimes people pretend to be happy. I know cause im like that sometimes. Yes your 27 years old. But if you go out now at 27 years old and look for a man you will 1000% find one .. But you might not be happy with the ending... My point is if you try so hard to get something you'll get it but it wont ever be as good as it just happening on its own. When you meet the right man you will know. Your eyes will lock and you'll just know.. My advice is to wait on love and focus on making YOURSELF happy first.The quote " happy wife happy life" comes to mind.. But if you think about it you can't have a happy wife if she was never happy in the first place. If she was unhappy with herself something will always be missing.I hope this helps a bit.
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PinkyMinky: I hope to never be a wife. Being a male and all, that'd be way too expensive to become a wife; SRS, hormones, clothes, etc. Too expensive. :p

Your experiences are different than mine. I've pried it out of people that those who have dated before are on average happier. Secondly, nothing makes me happy, and since I've never had a relationship, I'm wondering if it's worth the risks of seeing if it'll raise my average happiness level.

Inspire: No friends, no family. I already feel 15 years behind every one else. I'm sick and tired of waiting for "life to go on."
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well you shouldn't just walk around wanting a relationship to be happy you need to find someone who you like and you think would make you happy. So when you find this person then that's up to you and the other on what you do and at what speed like if you don't want to have sex yet or if you want the first chance you get that's up to you two. Also your age shouldn't matter nobody's journey through life is the same and if you don't have anyone yet then more power to you.