Could my gay ex still like me?

My ex boyfriend contacted me out of the blue 4 months ago. We agreed to meet in person and he confessed that he might be bisexual or gay, & this is why he was never fully sure of our relationship. The following weekend, we met up again and proceeded to hook up & lay together all night. He told me that his attraction and feelings for me while we dated weren’t fake. We both agreed that we need to stop communicating so much, as this makes it hard on both of us to find our way in life. But I feel that our attraction and feelings for one another never went away, and that he is just at a confused time in his life. Is it possible that he still has strong feelings for me? I think about him every day. By the way, I was the first person he told about his sexuality.

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Anonymous

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I'm assuming that you to were his first girlfriend or first sexual girlfriend. There is always a strong emotional attachment to those people in their life. The feelings may be real and he will on some level always have feelings for you. The thing about feelings is that sometimes while you have the feelings you know you cannot act on them because of logic.

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Swifting

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It is a complicated point. The point about being each other's firsts made by Swifting, above, is very valid. However, in cases of discovering new facets to sexual orientation, from what I've seen that self-discovery takes precedence over the impact of a first relationship.While it could indeed be the case that he still has strong feelings for you, until he works out for himself where he stands with his sexuality he may find it difficult to distinguish between past emotional feelings for you, current emotional feelings for you and past sexual feelings for you. I would say your idea to limit communication is a good one; in order for him to clarify for himself where he stands it's best to not have external influences such as memories of you two as a couple distracting him from discovering his current feelings.It's hard to say what will happen in the end, but unless that outcome happens with as much confidence and certainty as possible it's unlikely to be a happy one.

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Vergere