I knew this guy for about a year, we were casual friends, I liked him but I was with somebody. He lived far away, we barely talked. I moved to his area and found out he is in an open relationship for about three years. His gf is bi, and the two of them asked me to go to a club with them. Both made a move on me that night, but I just made out with the guy for a few hours before he let me go to sleep and he went to sleep with his girlfriend.
A few days later I told him I was lonely and needed cuddles and he drove an hour to my house and we hung out, I initiated sex, and it was fantastic. He is caring, sweet, we get along so well, but I’m recovering from a relationship, so I just wanted it casual and I thought I could put aside the feelings I had.
We talked for hours after, and he cuddled me and kissed every inch of my body and told me I am lovely and beautiful and he liked me a lot. I had such a great time with him that I couldn’t help the feelings, it was very romantic, and when he thought I was asleep her whispered “yes, I really like you” and kissed my neck.
He stayed very late the next day, and we talked and messed around and had a great time, he is super busy with work, but he wanted to see me again and asked if we could hang out if he could find the time off of work (he runs a major event coming up in a week)
He sends me fb messages and texts asking how I am and telling me he’s thinking of me.
I think I would like to be exclusive, but I am not sure, and I don’t feel I have the right to ask him to leave his gf for me, even though they never seem to spend time together and it’s weird.
I dont know what this is. I don’t know if I want to date him, but I don’t like thinking he’s with other woman. Does this sound casual or more? I am unfamiliar with this situation and am unsure what I should do next.
I’m scared I’ll have feelings and get hurt if he doesn’t want to be with me exclusively, but I’m also scared of being in an open relationship because I really care about people and I might get hurt, I just don’t know.
How do I talk to him about this?