What bothers me is that they don’t sound like jokes, but that’s what he calls them, and they come up at times where I don’t expect them. Like today, he told me that if I ever lied to the cops that he raped me, he would have to murder me. “If you ruin my life over a lie, I would have to get back at you.” (This makes this seem a lot less like just a joke.) and this is right after he told me that he could always find out where I live. He’s made jokes like this before, saying that if I ever came at him with a knife, he would dump my body into a lake. Or that he’s not afraid to jump a girl, particularly one that I’m cheating on him with. He just says too much. Part of me feels like these are secretly warnings from his end, because he has trust issues. This morning, he told me that if I were to ever dorm in college, he would dump me because he couldn’t deal with the paranoia. He’s constantly accusing me of texting other guys while I’m talking to him over the phone, but again, he always plays it off as a joke. Or if I don’t reply to his text for just a few minutes, he’ll “playfully” tell me to stop ignoring him. And I get that his thought process in these situations that he comes up with isn’t totally unreasonable, but I feel like there’s no reason to say these things. They’re not even funny; they just sound awful. Am I just being too sensitive?
I just want to view him as someone who would never ever hurt me, but obviously, it’s hard to do that when he’s constantly coming up with these types of scenarios. Should I just be grateful that he seems honest?