Borderline friendly/flirty. How to balance?

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So I tend to be quite friendly with people I like. I give hugs when needed, I genuinely care about them and about their hobbies, lives, etc.
Only problem is I’m a girl and most of my friends are guys. I wind up being hit on by a few of them and a female ‘friend’ wound up exploding at me, calling me a slut, when all I’ve done is hug people at most.
I don’t understand it though, I’m not flirting, yet some guys think I am, and that girl certainly thinks so. I don’t see how just giving a hug to a friend when they’re upset or after being nice is too much, or how actually paying attention to people is wrong.
I’m sure I’m fine and it’s really that one girl with the problem since she tends to be rather nasty, but I have to wonder if I’m being too friendly.

Category: Tags: asked June 17, 2013

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There's no such thing as being too friendly in my opinion.. You like helping people and be a good friend, there's nothing wrong with that.. There will always be those girls who say you're a 'slut', cuz they're jealous of you having male friends cuz every girl wants to have them. Maybe that girl has a crush on a guy you hugged or something, but don't let her bring you down or change who you are. Be yourself, it's ok.Hope that was helpful.. (:
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I totally agree with Hunny B! You are friendly with your friends and if other girls get jealous because you have male friends (which is a thing most girls want!), then it really is their problem and not yours! So dont change the way you are and the way you treat your friends. It wasnt a problem before the girl called you name so why should it be now?
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Some guys will think you're flirting no matter what. It's happened to me before where I'm with my friends and think "I believe this girl is interested". Jk only friends haha. And they get that too. There's nothing you can do about it. My current girlfriend is a sweetheart like you too and a few times guys have thought they were getting lucky =P. I told her its admirable that she's nice too everyone even if guys get like that and same goes for you!
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Asker here, thanks all of you for your help ^^