Bisexuality/Lesbianism

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So basically i just wanna know if anyone else whos bisexual has ever felt like this. I just dont feel i could ever be in love with a guy (im a girl) but yes i do find guys attractive.
Despite that i just cant picutre myself marrying a guy or having any serious, monogamous relationship with a man. I can i only see a future with women.
Theres only been one guy that i fell for, but im pretty sure his looks dominated that attraction.
Ive been feeling this for a while and was wondering if anyone else who labels themself as bisexual has experienced this. Please let me know if you have and anything else that could help this slight problem ive been having.

Category: Tags: asked October 24, 2013

5 Answers

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I'm not bi or anything but I just don't see this as being a "problem" as you describe. You love who you love and as long as you are happy then that is all that should matter. Just live your life how you want to and don't let anyone else tell you otherwise. When you find that special someone who you want to spend the rest of your life with then just be happy, girl, guy, trans, whatever.
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There's something called the Kinsey scale which you might find interesting. It holds that sexuality is on a scale, not an all-or-nothing deal. It ranks from 0 to 6:

0 Exclusively heterosexual
1 Predominantly heterosexual, only incidentally homosexual
2 Predominantly heterosexual, but more than incidentally homosexual
3 Equally heterosexual and homosexual
4 Predominantly homosexual, but more than incidentally heterosexual
5 Predominantly homosexual, only incidentally heterosexual
6 Exclusively homosexual

This is a very basic scale though. I know labels can bring people peace of mind, but like TE0991 says, just love who you want to love. If your feelings don't fit perfectly under a label, really who cares? If you would really like to find a way to identify, there's a big difference between finding a man attractive and being sexually and romantically attracted to them. Throughout my journey of finding my sexual orientation, I have found that the best teachers are time and experience. It's very difficult to sit down and think your way into an answer.

I identify as pansexual and like to call myself "gender-blind." To me, it's a case by case basis, and I've had relationships with both genders.
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I am bisexual, and I have the same thing, I'm more attracted to women, but I do see myself marrying a man, what your feeling is completely normal, don't sweat it, just do you.
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I feel the same way. While I am attracted to both men and women I see a women in my future. It's perfectly normal everyone has different preferences.
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I thought I was attracted to guys for the majority of my life, and I had crushes on them several times. But looking back on those crushes, I never could picture myself dating them or having a relationship on them. A few years later, I realized I was more compatible relationship wise with girls. I've been in relationship with a girl for 18 months, and can't picture myself with anyone else, much less any guy. I do get attracted to guys but I never could be with one. My suggestion is to go with what you feel best, and not question why it's happening differently than you expected.