Best Friend issues.

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Hi,

So i have my best friend of three years and i love her to pieces. I desperately try to make her happy as she gets jealous and mad at me very easily. And it breaks my heart.. I try to talk to her and we just end up in a giant argument which ends in tears on both sides. We have been going months without an argument due to a few rules we put down to avoid them.

The other night i went out to a festival with another friend, One of our rules said not to say or post anything about going away with others or something. I followed this rule respectively and didnt do anything, never brought it up. Then another friend whom we had met at the festival dobbed us in. Shes been so mad at me since and when i thought she finally wasnt mad and put the whole thing behind her, i asked the person i went to the festival with whether the girl we met there was the girl she had a crush on (another story) and then my best friend got really mad at me. I am close to tears because she wont talk to me and since i get really jealous too. she seems to be having this deliberate skinship with the girl i went to the festival with. It got me so self concious i left where we were sitting and cried in the girls toilets. I feel like a failure to her.. Am i that bad of a best friend she has to rip my heart out and shove it down my throat? I need help with our friendship and cant contact her right now. So we cant sort it out. Thank you all.

Tags: asked October 21, 2014

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Honestly, it doesn't sound like a healthy friendship. Any relationship that has rules, doesn't seem healthy. You both should be free to do what you want, without fear of making the other mad. Both you and your best friend need to separately work on your jealousy issues and self-esteem. A lack of confidence in self-worth is a recipe for jealously. I know it may hurt to take a break from talking to your best friend, but it would be best for the two of you. Let each of you work on your jealously and self-esteem.