Are there good people left?

First and foremost I don’t believe in asking a question and not showing who I am. So encase it says anonymous I am Chernoybl. Please note I have no problem with someone else being anonymous that is only for myself.

So here we go, I have always been a listener, I have never talked about my feelings to another for a long time because whenever I have in the past I have had my heart ripped out.

So here is my question, do good people actually exist anymore? Sure there are awesome people out there always nice and do good deeds their entire life. But I mean friends who ask how you are doing, check up on you if they haven’t heard from you in awhile, go on adventures with you, let you help them as much as they help you, keep your secrets as you keep theirs, friends that will stick with you through the thick and thin? There to back you up when you need it and to tell you that your in the wrong when you are?

Cause fellow listeners and venters I am one social guy and I have lots of “friends” but never have I found one that even hits 10% of that.. And as I sit here writing this, I so wish I had someone like that.

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Chernobyl

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There are good people. The problem is that some of them are forgetful, and some of them need second chances. I don't count on my friends to check up on me because yeah, forgetful/people think about their own lives a lot of the time, but when I need them, I reach out and they're there. I keep in touch and let them know they're important, and they do the same for me. I mean, it sounds like you're a good friend to people. You're probably just friends with the wrong kind of people. I've got a best friend who meets most of your criteria, and I'm the same kind of friend to her, so we're out there. We have adventures, support each other through lots of crazy horrible things, keep secrets, and help each other out when the other person needs it. The helping is more as-needed and uneven, but it evens out over the years. And it has been ten years.

It happens a lot to listeners, that we end up befriending the people that need someone to listen to them, but don't know how to listen themselves. One way to break out of that listener-talker dynamic is just to be open about your problems and talk about them more when you're meeting new people so you know that they can handle it and so it sets the tone of the relationship to be give and take, but it sounds like you don't have a problem with that, non-anonymous Chernoybl.

Anyways, I had so much trouble finding good friends up until high school, when I started picking close friends based on loyalty and their ability to listen and I'm much happier for it now in college. Also I figured out how to work through problems with friends. My best friend isn't always the best of friends, but we value each other enough that we tell each other when we're not being a good friend and fix it.

Don't give up! But do look elsewhere.

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Minora. Just Minora.

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So long as there are bad people, there will be good people, and vice versa. They may be hard to find, but they are certainly there.

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Sentinel

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ahhh the art of true friendship,......it's not a lost art, nor a dying art, however it is a rare and beautiful art...i truely hope you find it Chernobyl

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Robin

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