So there was this guy who said that he liked me, but he never even bothered to call me or to ask me out. We never even got to the really deep conversations because he’d always say something like “Let’s save that for a face-to-face conversation” or “I’d prefer a personal interview.” And I understood his point, but then again, he never followed up by saying “So how about we have that conversation over lunch?” or something like that. So we were basically flirting with each other through text. But he abruptly stopped texting or replying.
When I greeted him a happy birthday a few months after, we finally got to talking about why he just stopped replying to my messages. He said that he was having a dilemma with regard to his feelings for me and that he didn’t wanna be a jerk: he said that he wanted to pursue me, but he knew I was . . . innocent. So I explained to him my views on physical intimacy. We had different views. I was sort of getting a vibe from him that maybe he’s not as interested in pursuing me anymore. So I asked him if he still wanted to be friends (I just gave up at that point and figured that was as much of a closure I was going to get). He said yes, of course; then—because I just somehow felt like I had to say it—I said “It’s sad realizing that I may really not be what you need.” And of course, he had to reply it with something twisted. He said, “Maybe you are. Maybe not right now . . .”
I was fine with him accepting my offer of friendship and that maybe he really wasn’t that into me as he’d let on. Why’d he have to say that? To “soften the blow”?
