Any good ways to stop obsessing over other people?

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I do this with people in general where I become so concerned about their lives that I forget about mine. For example, there is this guy that I’ve been seeing and sleeping around with. I consider myself a pretty cool, lenient chick who goes with the flow. I don’t know where we stand and I’m too afraid to ask right now, but I definitely know that I have some feelings for this guy. He’s going to school in my city right now-Chicago- and left about three weeks ago to go back to his hometown of Malibu. Ever since he left, I’ve been thinking about him, replaying his snap chats over and over to remember what he looks like; maybe even for fantasy reasons. We’ll talk after quite a few days but I wish we talked more. I don’t know if he likes me or if he thinks I’m just a piece of ass. Maybe he’s busy at home? I don’t know. But that, right there, is the problem. I’ve basically put things on hold, waiting for him to come home. I don’t know why I do that but it’s like I get so excited to be with people that I get my hopes up. Turns out that I’m usually disappointed. I wish I would just get the point by now, but it seems as though I keep resorting back to this obsessive nature. What can I do to stop being this way? Do I distract myself? What do I do to start my life and stop worrying about his and what he thinks of me? Or what people think of me in general?

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First off, you need to do something to distract yourself or you are going to drive yourself insane. It isn't healthy to focus and obsess on someone too much. Go out with friends, or if you're more of a private person, go see a movie alone. Rent one if you don't want to go out. Play a game, read a book, music, anything. That will help you keep busy but not focused on just this guy. Maybe when he gets back you can ask him what he wants out of your current relationship, that way if you don't like his agenda, you can walk away. Preventing you from getting hurt more. It's hard when you like someone so much they get stuck on your mind, but you need to try to push yourself to do and focus on other things as well. For your own well being. Good luck to you.