Am I really as selfish, ugly and pathetic as I feel?

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Is it sad that I want people to think I’m pretty? I don’t feel like I am, but when other people tell me I am, for a brief moment, I feel pretty. But then it goes away, and I’m my anxious, nervous, insecure self again. Am I a bad person because of that? I don’t seek out compliments, or dress provocatively, and I get a bit weird when people compliment me, but I like being told I’m pretty. I’m generally shy and hide from people, but I thinks that’s cause I always feel like I’m uglier than everyone around me. I feel like maybe I’m selfish because I want to be pretty. I feel absolutely hideous though; I hate being in pictures unless I take them myself so I know I’m not making a stupid face. (like my profile picture, I took that myself, but I look a bit strange) Ugh. I just don’t know what’s wrong with me. Am I really as selfish, ugly and pathetic as I feel?

Category: asked October 1, 2014

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Adeline,I am listening. If you are interested in some feedback from me, read on:When we are born, we go through a process of self-discovery. We are innocent, full of curiosity, open minded individuals. When you picture a baby, what do you think of? Babies need to be nurtured and loved. We all start out that way, and are self-accepting as we begin to be self-aware. We automatically have a pure love for ourselves and for other people.Somewhere during our journey through life, we learn judgment. This judgment is based on our beliefs, beliefs that we also learn in life. The funny thing about judgment is that it is a double-edge sword. It can serve a protection when used in one way. It can also be used to cut ourselves and others down.Judgment of self is reflected in judgment of others, and vice versa. It can be painfully tied to anxiety and depression.My feedback for you is that the good news in your situation is that you realize that you have behaviors that aren't working for you. If you feel that you deserve change in the area of judgment in your life, it may serve you to be accepting instead of judgmental. People will be able to tell when you accept yourself for who you are, the essence of you. The love that you will carry from self-acceptance will shine like a brilliant confidence to everyone around you. People will be able to tell when you are accepting of others as well. You may even inspire them to BE themselves as well by being yourself and accepting yourself. If they choose to be inspired, they will be. If not, then that is also their option to choose.My sister, do what truly works for you in your life.
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It's not sad to want people to think that you're pretty. Feeling pretty is part of our self-esteem and it does not make you selfish at all. (you are pretty by the way, judging from you display pic).If you feel you have a low self esteem, there are many ways to try and fix that and it takes time and hard work, but always remember, your worth as a person is not tied to the way you look.
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Beauty lies on the inside and also on the eye of the beholder. Its all subjective. Don't be dependent on others. You're gorgeous! And no, it doesnt make you a bad person. You're a beautiful person and you shouldn't think otherwise OR let others make you think otherwise :)
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it's fine to want people to see you as pretty. you have low self esteem, obviously. try using a different mirror, i'm sure the one that you think makes you look bad isn't working right. well. it's cracked or blurry or something.
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Thanks, all. :) Your advice means a lot.