Am I overbearing??

Ok so it’s kinda a long story but ill try to shorten it up a lot. so I’ve been dating my boyfriend Blake on and off for about 4 years now. well last year is when all of our problems started. He has this friend Isaac who is just all trouble. Isaac and Blake have done so many things behind my back: strip club twice, smoked pot, hung out behind my back and sooo many other things. well now it’s been about 7 months since blake has really changed around. he has shown that he isn’t gong to lie anymore and he even cut off isaac for me. Now he wants to be friends with him again. I have slowly let blake hang out with isaac as long as hes with other friends.
Soooo…. my question is, am I in the wrong for still being worried and not wanting him to hang out with Isaac? Am I just being controlling?

I’m still worried he may cheat again or do something behind my back, but I just need a reality check.

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Katelynn

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By cheating, are you talking about smoking pot and going to a strip club? You sound a bit like a mom to be honest, but you have a right to define what you consider harmful for your relationship and ask him to avoid those behaviors, and if you discussed about occasionally enjoying marijuana and looking at naked dancers, and banned them, it's ok to be upset.

You got to keep in mind though that your boyfriend is an adult who is responsible for his actions, focusing on Issac as the culprit is like a mom blaming her son's friends for everything, you should talk with him about how pliant he is.

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rinseandrep

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I'm not sure where overbearing was even present in this. I'm a guy, I'd never cheat, but for the guys that do, I sure hope their girlfriend does the same thing you did. Cheating in general is just bad...my first girlfriend cheated on me for really no apparent reason other than she gets bored of people fast...so that being said, I'm glad you are aware of Blake and his actions and I really hope that he holds up your relationship with enough faith and pride that he will respect your desires. If not, it will hurt, but at least you'll know what kind of guy he is.

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-Brandon-

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That's what i'm terrified of. I don't want to go through that again nor, will I.

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Katelynn

I definitely don't wont to come off as being a mom. I do love him and care about him a lot but in no way do I want to control him. I mean there are things I obviously wouldn't want him to do just like he wouldn't want me to go and do certain things either.

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Katelynn