Am I Boring?

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Whenever I meet a new person, for a couple of days we’re cool and talking but then after a few days it gets down to boring conversations and simple answers. Like I ask “what’s up?” and they reply a simple answer. Im always the one trying to keep the conversation alive but I feel like I bore the person im talking to. I try to talk to them but they just seem like they would rather talk to someone else. Every conversation ends real dull and boring and i dont know if im the boring one or if they just dont care.

Category: Tags: asked June 7, 2014

9 Answers

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it could be that you just are not talking to the right people or your personalitys are just different. your not borring, some one will alway find you interesting, just remember that everyone is different.
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New connections can often seem fun and exciting at first. At the very least, in the first few days you have the time to go through the basics of one another, and then after that sustaining meaningful contact takes a connection. I don’t think that it has anything to do with the fact that you are boring. “Boring” and “unconnected” are two entirely different things. In my opinion, no one is ever really boring; we just aren’t able to connect with everyone to the capacity that it takes to have a worthwhile conversation.I don’t think that you are boring, and I don’t believe that they don’t care. I think that you haven’t found many people with the kind of personality that can mesh well with yours. Keep your head up and keep trying to speak with new people, and sooner or later you’ll find that your “What’s up” will turn into a conversation that you’ll never forget.
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You just need to find someone with similar interests that you can share. Tahdah, no more boring~!
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I can relate but my problem is more because of the fact that I'm an awkward person. I think you just need to find someone you have more things in common and whose less judging.
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People generally like to talk about themselves or their interests. Ask them about what they are passionate about. If you have a similar interest great... if not ask them to tell you about it then sit back and learn.

If you are having trouble breaking the ice there are some thought provoking questions you can toss around. Ones I use are:

How old would you be if you didn't know your age?
What would you do if you knew you couldn't fail?
If you could teach someone something what would it be?
If you could tell the whole world something what would it be?

Good Luck!
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learn abt his interests and take some interests in it..try involving in activities of his interest with him
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Don't say "What's up?" to start a conversation... When did that ever work? Be precise, start with let's say: "Have you been surprised by something lately?" or talk about current events. Everybody has a bloody opinion about current events.
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No it surely does not mean you are boring, if you were boring how could you talk interestingly initially, I guess the problem might be they are not in the right frame of mind to pick up interesting conversation, as conversation requires two people, one uninterested person makes it hard to converse.
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What you should do, is ask more questions that are more in depth. For example thoughtful questions that will not only let you get to know them better, but also to continue the conversation. For example, asking "what is your favorite color?" would get you a one worded answer. But if instead you asked "What do you miss most about being a kid?" you would get a much more thorough answer. Don't give up, keep trying, and don't be afraid to make mistakes- learn from them.