I’m 21 years old, married to a marine, we live in Hawaii. We’re both from New Mexico. Usually during Christmas time, we go back to New Mexico to visit our families but this year we aren’t, because his parents decided to fly out here (and fly out my husband’s sister and her boyfriend, as well as my husband’s brother, his wife and their 3 month old) during Christmas/new years. Here’s my issue: his parents didn’t even ask if that was ok with us. And I feel like no one was thinking about me while planning all this because since we aren’t going to New Mexico, I won’t be able to see my family (who I only get to see once a year during the holidays) His family is always so nice and they’ve already planed out the whole trip (including renting a beach house and planning activities for all of us) and I don’t want to sound ungrateful, but I’m finding it difficult to be as excited as they are about coming here, because I know I wont be seeing my family. Am I being selfish?