This is a very serious question, I’m not kidding.
So, recently my mother has been telling me that certain things I do are “bizzare” and “autistic,” namely the facts that I don’t like being touched unless the person who wants to do so either asks me or is a super close friend, and that I tend to hide behind my phone in social situations (I’m fairly certain that I have some kind of anxiety). A while ago, she told me to “do a self-evaluation” and I fit a lot of the criteria, but I don’t know if I’m actually autistic or if I just think I fit the criteria when really I don’t. (See, this is where the anxiety comes in. <_< )
I'm an introvert while my mother is most definitely an extrovert, so that might be why she doesn't understand why I don't like being hugged. She thinks it's "bizzare" that I don't like being spontaneously tackle-hugged by my gross little sister eight times a day, and she makes fun of me because I used to let my ex hug me and I do let my best friend hug me.
Aside from not liking to be touched, I have trouble reading facial expressions and tone of voice, I can't empathize with people (if they tell me something bad happened to them, all I can do is sort of stand there and say "Oh"), I get frustrated incredibly easily to the point of one time I almost cried because my mother did a crappy job of painting my nails and she wouldn't let me touch up the spots she missed, I tend to take things literally, I’m hypersensitive especially to smells, and I know almost everything there is to know about dragons (or at least, I used to, I fell out of it a little after high school dragged my attention away).
I don't have any speech problems and according to my mother I have above-average intelligence (however I don't know how true that is; I'm almost failing Trig).
This is a serious question, I'm concerned. Am I actually Autistic/Asperger's or am I stressing about nothing? The only reason I'm worried is because of what my mother said, should I have just ignored her? She said something like "If you are, it's okay, but you need to find out if you are so that you can cope." While I disagree with the necessity of "coping" — like hell I'm gonna change the way I am to make other people more comfortable around me, I don't stop being queer either — I can't tell if she actually thinks I'm autistic or if she was just being like that to guilt me into trying to fit more into her definition of "normal".
EDIT: Surprise! Turns out I actually tested as almost-autistic AND ADHD when I was really young but my mother never saw it fit to let me know!