Advice Please?

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I’ve been really confused and irritated since January, My parents split up at the start of January and my boyfriend cheated on me as well on the same day. I’ve never been “popular” the oppisite tbh always the one being bullied or left to eat alone at lunch. I don’t really have much confidence as people just take me as a joke and are always calling me “emo” “loner” ect… I’ve been self-harming since I was 11 (15 now) and suicidal thoughts tend to be 60% of my thoughts. When I go outside I cant stand being near strangers and most of the time walk away as far as possible even if It means crossing the road and waiting 3 minuets until they’re gone. I cant tell my family anything as its a bad time as my nan died, my brothers leaving for Uni, and the rest of my family are dealing with my mum who tends to leave me alone at home most of the time .

Category: Tags: asked August 22, 2014

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i am sorry that you have to deal with so much at a time.but you can get through it and be strong.you are really special and sent to the world with a purpose and there is always god and friends like me around for you. try to see an adult you can trust and talk to them. self harm is not the solution so here is a challenge for you. draw a butterfly somewhere you can see it and your aim is to keep it alive.name it and perhaps even share your thoughts aloud with it as crazy as it sounds.each day you dont self harm is another day your butterfly lives or else it dies...see how long you can do that! i promise you it will get better and i am not saying it to patronize you but from my own expriences that it always gets better. lots of love...your friend lilac
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Hiya Gabbie!

I'm sorry you're going through all of this, we all have moments in our lives when it feels like the world is out to get you. There is no one who can tell you what you can or cannot feel, every person reacts in different ways and it would be wrong to try and make you believe otherwise. Equally as me trying to know how you feel, which I'm not even going to pretend I know the slightest.

However, despite what you may be thinking right now, you are not alone. And it's your choice to decide when and if you're telling your parents, but I strongly think that you should find someone you trust to confide in. Wether it's a friend, an adult or a therapist.

You have the power to be the person you want to be, and don't let other's judgement and envious comments dictate how you live your life. They don't matter. This isn't a perfect world by any means, you simply need to develop a thick skin and filter out the bad stuff, focus on the good. The people closest to you, who cares.

Find things that makes you happy, take up a new hobby and meet people who share the same interests, join groups here on blah where there's is many who would like to have someone new to talk to, or other various sites.

”In order to succeed, we must first believe that we can.”

I hear you, I listen, if you ever want to talk, just send me a message.
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I've been in similar school scenarios and it can be hard. My "friends" gave me a nickname after 2 eating disorders just because I hate eating in public. It took me too long to find real friends and they all graduated before summer started. But I speak from experience when I say that the band kinds are very excepting of anyone. I am a total band geek (school and marching band) and I would be the girl who would invite you to McDonalds with me just seeing you eating alone, HELL I'd even buy you an ice cream. Band kids are the most accepting so try hanging out around them. And if you want, I'll be your cyber friend, feel free to message me if you're having trouble with anything. I know what it's like to feel alone
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hey gabbie , i would be honored to have you as a friend and talk about anything you want at anytime.