Advice on possibly reworking an old relationship?

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I split up with my ex in a mutual breakup. Long story short he came out of prison and got in a relationship with me only a few months after. He never had the chance to be sober, single, and free after. So we split to let him experience that sort of life. Then I found out he cheated on me…for months. I originally wanted to try to hopefully work things out but I got comfortable enough to start dating again and met an amazing guy. Now my ex wants me back, I’m the love of his life and all, and he has this whole list of ways to basically not screw up our relationship again. He’s telling me he’ll do the things this new guy is already doing. Now I’m not in a relationship with the new guy. Just dating. But I have strong feelings for both of them. And I still do love my ex just not as much as I used to. I have no idea if that’s because I’m scared to love him again or if I truly don’t have feelings for him. Meanwhile I’m falling hard for this other guy. Now I’m conflicted. My feelings for each guy are sort of at the same level and my ex wants a chance to show me he’s a better man. I still don’t know if I want that or not…on one hand I do and on the other I don’t. Any advice on how to navigate through this??

asked July 19, 2015

2 Answers

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I'd say to stick it out with the guy you're currently dating. Presumably he has a better relationship track record. I try to generally be a forgiving person, but when it comes to relationships, you don't get second chances if you were cheating on me. Being happily single is SO much better than being in a bad relationship. Heck, even being unhappily single is better than being in a bad relationship. But you don't even have to go there because you're dating a guy who's treating you right and hasn't ever treated you wrong. So stick with him.
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I don't think its wise to go back to your ex, he cheated for a very long period of time. How can you trust that he won't do it again after he lied and cheated on you for such a long period of time? Its best to keep dating the man you're with now, especially since you seem to be deeply falling for him. I think you should talk to your current boyfriend about your lingering feelings as well, its important that he knows. Over all, stay with the man you're currently with and allow your feelings for your ex to die off. Your ex lied to you once before, you can't trust him enough to not do it again.