A few social related issues. help?

Hi there!

1.) So first of all, I'd like for you to know that I live in a country relatively near to yours as I am from the Philippines. I've visited Singapore before and it's a lovely country. Even though we are from different countries, I wouldn't be opposed to being your friend! And having horrible friends is part of life, it's normal. We've all had those horrible friends. But for you to know which people to be friends with, you have to mingle, of course. Get to know each and everyone and that's when you'll know who your true friends are. Take what you've learned from being friends with horrible people so you'll have better knowledge on who you should befriend. I mean, once you've experienced having bad friends, then you'll now learn and not make the same mistake twice. Don't be afraid to make new friends! Don't let your bad experience of having horrible friends hold you down and stop you from befriending more people!

2.) As I am from a very strict Asian family, I too am not allowed still to date anyone yet. Yes, starting a conversation with him may be a bit awkward, but why not give it a try? Once you get comfortable again with each other, then you'll both get past that awkward phase. And besides, he asked you out before, so I bet he wouldn't mind if you two became friends again! And once you get closer to him, maybe you can share with him your feelings. Don't be afraid of rejection, don't get discouraged if ever he says no.

3.) Facebook is great, so try and create one. Don't think about what other people will think if you have just a few friends. You'll eventually gain plenty of friends along the way, so don't worry about it!

4.) You are not alone! I understand how you feel. Here's what I think you should do, this is my opinion only though. How about you keep it to yourself first. There's still a big possibility that you'll be attracted to boys, so if you get with a boy then it's all good. Once you start a relationship with a girl though, I think that's the right time to tell them. Tell them calmly and just hope that they'll accept it. If you really want it, then defend yourself and fight for it.

5.) Please know that that's completely normal! Try speaking to more people in public, and you'll find yourself getting comfortable with it! It's a learning process, so just practice, practice, practice! Or you can also channel your thoughts by writing, and that sort of stuff. Those things help too!

6.) Oh, dear. I'm sorry. I'm not sure but maybe she just wants you to forget about it and not bring it up often because it might trigger your depression again. I think yes, they are connected. But please know that you're beautiful okay and you deserve to be happy!

I'm not an expert about these things, but I really hope this helped! You're very lovely, and have every right to live a happy life! Bless you and have a good day! :)

Mother of god that's a story. First of all respect for still hanging on after what happend to you. Second I will try to answer all questions I can I hope somebody else will help you with the others.1) In general all people are assholes since they only care for them themselfs, thanks mother nature for that one so the tricky part is to find people who aren't as bad as the others. That is a long and hard way and you can only know a person properly if you talked to her/him so it is natural that you find many assholes out there who don't give a damn but there are some people who sometimes care about you. Of course they will have their bad days aswell so it is sometimes hard to find them so hang on and keep searching. And it will get MUCH easier if you go out of school since you aren't forced to hang out with people like you are in class.I am a guy so I don't know if there are any differences for girls but if there are just try to be friends with guys^^.2.) There is no safety that he will fall for you or won't turn you down. There simply isn't. That's one of the reasons why it is so hard to ask or talk to somebody. You are scared of beeing hurt because you're feeling might be rejected and you are scared of beeing embarassed (dunno if that's the right word) in public (which is in my opinion a much bigger problem for you cause of you're character). But you know what? Everybody is so it takes some great courage to talk to somebody. You're only choice is to talk to him in public and don't bee scared because you normally don't talk to him. Isn't that a perfect reason to talk to him like you "just want to get to know him" for others? You could also talk to him via social media like phone or facebook which leads to.3) Don't be scared of adding someone because you have 0 friends. Everybody on that site start with 0 so it's totally fine to send a request to somebody. Most of them don't really give a crap with whom they're "friends" they just add you because you were talking to them on a vacation or on a party, stuff like that. If you want to you can add me on Facebook if that helps (and since I'm from germany you have something to talk about with whoever you like to add^^)4)If you don't want to you don't have to but you will always have to hide it from them which will be a great burden. And you can't change their mind if you don't talk with them about it. If you tell them they have to think about that matter and start to search for information about it. And since it is only natural to be bi you have to give those infos to them talk with doctor about it let a doctor talk to them explain the science behind it. Make clear that it's not some illness prove them that it is in your DNA which was passed down to you by THEM (important point).5)That's social fear (?)(I don't know the word sorry :/) we have groups here with people who know much more aout that stuff then me try to talk to them about it.6) I can't give you some big advice since I wasn't molested, but if you want to talk with you're cousellor about it that tell her and if you think she doesn't really helps you try another one they're nothing like doctors if won't help you, you don't continue going to him right?I hope I helped you a bit good luck and stay strong we are here for you.

thank you guys for the kind words, advice and most of all, your empathy. I feel like I have a bunch of anonymous friends now:)