3 Year Relationship

I have been dating a guy for 3 years this September. I am 24 years old with one more year of college to undergo. We’ve talked about moving in together and getting married once I’m done, but he wants me to finish school first. I don’t see the point of waiting until school is over to move in with someone; especially if I’m over there every night. Not to mention I’ve always wanted to wait until I was engaged before I moved in with someone. I haven’t worked up the courage to say that to him yet because I don’t know how to say it without sounding like I’m desperate for a ring. I’m getting so frustrated with playing this waiting game that sometimes I can’t help but feel angry at him for wanting to wait so long and depressed that he hasn’t at least taken me off the market with a proposal. Could he be dragging his feet? Am I being impatient? Should I bring up how I feel and if I do what should I say?

Category: Dating & Relationships Tags: commitment asked August 15, 2013

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Miss.Crystal

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As a guy, I can tell you that (although I'm not certain because, as the previous user says, not everyone's mind works the same way) he's just concerned about you being able to focus on your education. Education means better job prospects and more money to support a family, so he wants you to live independently for the next year just so you can focus on your work.Three years is a long time and both of you should be able to be upfront with each other about things like this. Sit him down for a talk and tell him that you feel you should just move in because you're there every night and he'll probably explain his point of view as well.Best of luck.

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Will

I can see your point since I'm a girl too. But I think that if it's really that big of a problem for you to wait the next year and what you said about not moving in with someone until you're engaged, then I think you should just talk to him about it. I'm sure that since you've been together for 3 years now, you two have a pretty strong bond and it won't really cause any trouble to explain to him your feelings about this whole situation. I can't really tell you if he is dragging it out, because every persons mind works differently to some point. All I can say is that you have nothing to lose if you just open up to him. You never know, he might actually tell you if he's been dragging it out, and why.Good Luck - D <3

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